Are you prone to getting colds a lot? Or perhaps you have frequent headaches ... not major migraines, just headaches that make life a bit miserable. Or do you often bite your tongue? That's painful. How about twisting your ankle more often than most of your friends? If any of that were true, one of the things someone might say to you, is that you should take better cae of yourself, because each of them is a symptom of something else going on inside of you.
With the psyche we also have symptoms of something else going on inside of you. Here are some examples:
- you are aware of really needing someone, perhaps someone you have barely met, so it makes little sense, but nevertheless, you feel as though you are unable to breathe without this person, and you suffer dreadfully when you are without him or her
- you have allowed people in your life to treat you in ways you know are not right ... perhaps not violence or physical abuse, but they have been consistently inconsiderate, unkind, rude, hurtful, etc., and you have felt the pain of it, often in your own body. You have also felt the self-loathing for allowing it to continue, but it is still happening.
Pay attention: if you have either of these symptoms, know that your self-love is lacking. Know that you do not respect yourself the way you could and should. Knowing this does not mean that you should heap further self-loathing on your shoulders for being like this, but that you should look at yourself kindly, in understanding of your deep inner pain, and choose to walk down a new road. On this road self-love will be the guide you will follow and gently, lovingly, you will change the part of yourself that does not love the self.
Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.
Photo: Cartagena de las Indias, Colombia