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Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Intention



You may say you wish to change something about your life. You may, in fact, try to implement specific techniques or strategies you have read about in a book, or learned from a workshop or therapist. But nothing much changes. Whatever is bothering you, or whatever you would like to change, is still there, hanging about your neck like a millstone.

So what's going on? Are you not doing it correctly?

It could be as simple as the fact that you have not truly examined your intention with regards to whatever it is you wish to change. If your intention is pure and strong, you will do whatever it takes to be aware of yourself - if not at all times, because at the beginning that simply does not come naturally, but at least as often as you can muster - with the intention of becoming more aware each and every day precisely in order to be in a position to remember to implement the techniques or strategies as often as possible on an ongoing basis. Having a clear intention can make all the difference.

Let's use the example of Rafael Nadal, although his activity is tennis, as opposed to changing something about his inner world, his character, his way of being and thinking. When he began to practice playing tennis as a boy, it is evident that he must have had a strongly formed intention to practice every day, to practice a minimum number of hours, and to take lessons from someone who knew more than he did. Perhaps he also practised - as do many top athletes - visualizing himself serving accurately and with incredible speed, using a killer backhand, or of visualizing himself at Wimbledon, at Roland Garros, or at Flushing Meadows, and receiving the winner's trophy. We all understand that there is absolutely no way on earth he could have achieved what he did, without said intention. Just having a parent or tennis pro wanting him to do it would not have been enough. It also needed to emanate from within himself.

So he would have become very aware of himself with regards to his intention towards tennis, with his practise and perhaps with his visualizations. Intention and awareness.

Now: why would you imagine it would be any different with yourself? Admittedly, you're not going out there to play the Davis Cup, but if you wish to change something about yourself, or way of acting, thinking, feeling, and reacting, you will need intention and you will need awareness. And both will feed each other until they become so ingrained that you simply can't imagine life anymore without being that way.

What are you doing today to strengthen your intention to become more aware?


For more about becoming conscious and aware, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available both as a paperback or an e-Book for Kindle. Download the first chapter by clicking here

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Omram Michael Aivanhov has written that the difference between a flower and a weed is a judgment, the cause of so much of our existential pain. And Dr. Kortsch has identified clearly how to commence this wonderful journey from victimhood to self-empowerment, from judgment to compassion. Dr Kortsch has sketched from her personal experiences, professional expertise and her own on-going growth in self-awareness, how, and again using the words of Aivanhov, we can transform and distill our suffering into a most precious perfume by taking responsibility for our own well-being and opening our eyes and hearts to our innate freedom to choose to have and live a meaningful and happy life.


 
Photos: Pyramids of China near the city of Xian

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Changing the World: One Person At A Time


Imagine you had been a heavy smoker. (As I was until September 1988). Or a heavy drinker. (As a dear friend of mine was until 1989). What happens when you stop? Don't some of your friends sit up and take notice? Don't some of them (perhaps only one of them) also stop? So by changing something about yourself, someone else observed it, and changed something about him or herself.

So what happens if you change something about your character? Perhaps you become kinder, more considerate, or as I discussed in yesterday's post, less critical, less impatient, less judgemental, etc. Is there not also someone observing this? Perhaps that someone isn't necessarily an individual who knew you the way you were before, but who is merely observing you now, and who has decided that they like the way you are, and want to be like that too. And so they change - at least in this regard - thanks to something they observed about you.

And what happens if by making these changes, you become so much more aware of yourself? You become conscious at all times, instead of only in moments of great intensity - good or bad - (which is when many first glimpse the effects of being fully conscious). And by so doing, you realize that you are, in fact, responsible for your own happiness and so you begin to take charge of your inner state of well-being, as opposed to allowing external circumstances dictate how you feel. And in so doing you increase the love you have for yourself. And while all of this is happening, someone else is observing you, and is thinking that they want that inner equanimity, that innner harmony that you have. And so they model you, or emulate you in some fashion, in order to bring about some changes in their own lives.

And then - as I imagine you will have already realized - another someone - observes the changes taking place in the person that initially observed you, someone who has no clue who you are, or even that the person they are observing made changes because of the fact that they observed you, and this third someone, now begins making some changes of their own. It becomes an exponentially growing pyramid of ever more changing and growing individuals who thus come to an increased place of inner well-being and joy.

This is how we can ALL change the world one person at a time. It's a win-win situation because you gain inner peace and freedom and others do as well, and eventually, if enough do it, the world will - in fact - also change. What are you doing today to change the world?


For more about the self-transformational process - both in your outer life in the world, and in your inner life with your connection to your inner, divine self, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self

To download the first chapter, click here

From the Description on Amazon: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.




Photos: Bahia, Brazil


Monday, August 29, 2011

Cultivating Patience


Patience is a virtue. It is said of others that they have the patience of angels. Or the patience of Job.  Or perhaps the patience of a saint. All of it implies that to be patient means you have to overcome something in yourself in order to be patient - hence, a saint or an angel, or as Job, undergo a litany of woes, and not lose your patience.

Saint Augustine wrote: patience is the companion of wisdom. Tolstoy wrote: the two most powerful warriors are patience and time. Benjamin Franklin wrote he that can have patience, can have what he will.  Emerson wrote: patience and fortitude conquer all things.

Clearly being patient refers not only to people or annoying situations in our daily lives, but also to life itself, those things we wish to accomplish, and how we wish to move on in our life trajectory.

I am  - notoriously - perhaps one of the most impatient persons in my circle. Always have been. And yet, if you had met me 20 or 30 years ago, you would have found I was much worse. Clearly, I've improved. But not all that much. And so, this business of being patient (especially with people and situations in daily life), has become a challenge, an ideal towards which I attempt to move myself on a continual basis. And that means that lately, whenever I am confronted with a situation that causes my impatience to arise, I look at it as an opportunity to put this desire to cultivate more patience into practice. That means, of course, that on some level, I become grateful for having said opportunity crop up in the course of my day. And slowly, I notice, due to looking at it in that fashion, I am becoming somewhat more patient.

I began doing a similar thing some years ago with being critical and judgemental - two qualities I don't care for, and yet can not be said to have eradicated from my character. But here's what I have achieved: I've become extremely conscious of being critical or judgemental each time I am tempted or swayed in that direction, and it is this awareness of it in myself, that means that each and every time it happens, I chip away at it a bit more. As I am doing with my impatience. Cultivating qualities or virtues is a noble cause, and truly all it takes is a bit of conscious awareness and the intention to continue to be consciously aware. What are you being conscious about today?


For more information about being aware, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.

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"This book is a gift to humanity, a valuable tool in aiding seekers to accomplish mastery of their own lives. Gabriella Kortsch provides clear steps to help people find peace in a practical and powerful way. She does not ask you to give up anything other then what no longer serves you. Brilliantly written!" HILLARY RAIMO; Author & Radio Host

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Photo: Castle at Tulum, Yucatan Peninsula, Mexico

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Sexual Energy: Fail to Understand it at Your Peril


How good is your sex life? How often do you have sex? Have you stopped having regular sex because you’ve been married 10 years and your partner is no longer so stimulating? Or have you stopped because he’s in andropause or because she’s in menopause and because you never were that crazy about it to begin with? Or maybe you stopped having it with your last partner, but then you found someone new where the passion came alive again…and now the pattern is repeating, and it’s stopped being exciting once more.

What does all this mean? And more importantly, what can you do about it?

Sex and Pleasure

The energy that is inherent in sex makes it a much more important aspect of our lives than mere pleasure, although pleasure is obviously a massively contributing part of it. Twenty-first century socialization is such that we are primed from early adolescence on to expect fireworks from sex. We believe sex will be one of the most vital and essential experiences of our life – as indeed it can be.

Mass Media and Socialization

However, due in part to this socialization via mass media (movies, television commercials, and glossy magazine ads, to name only a few), we come to expect something of our sexual lives that simultaneously increases its importance on levels that are perhaps inappropriate, and decreases its importance in other, much more relevant areas. This ultimately creates a general population that is frequently dissatisfied with its sex life – but for all the wrong reasons, and without knowing what the solution could be.

What is Sexual Energy?

What is sexual energy? Sexual energy is not only the passion that you feel (hopefully) as you engage in sex, but on other, much more transcendent levels, the doors that open energetically between you and your sexual partner during sex. This energetic exchange remains available for both individuals for a period of time after sex. Have you ever slept in the same bed as your partner and been drained the next day? Conversely, have you ever slept in the same bed as your partner and been refreshed the next day? If you are at all sensitive to the flow that can be established between two people after sex, you will have already connected the dots and realized that the way you feel the next morning does not only depend on expressed or unexpressed ardour, or the relative comfort of the mattress and the pillow, but much more importantly, on the energetic exchange between the two of you.

Speaking Openly

So how can this sexual energy be harnessed? If you have been following my posts here on this blog and articles in my monthly newsletter regularly, you will have read the November 2005 article about Transparency in Relationships and hence will have recognized the importance of speaking clearly. This applies to sex as well. If you do not speak about it with your partner, you have little chance for the real energy inherent in it to come out. It may be wildly passionate for a time, but the energy you can access with it may not be available to you.

Conscious Growth and Responsibility

But speaking about sex with your partner is not what it is all about. You must make the conscious decision to want to grow together with your partner. This mutual endeavour, via the connection you have through the relationship you share makes the difference between a relationship that may ultimately fail, or lose its fervour, and a relationship that not only has a chance at long-term survival, but also one that – because of the energetic connection inherent in sex – does not eventually flounder and die a slow death of sexual strangulation. The essence of conscious growth in a relationship depends on the couple’s desire to grow together psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually. This implies conscious awareness of the self, conscious awareness of all one’s feelings, thoughts, actions, and reactions (see Controlling Our Lives and the People in Them), and acceptance of the fact that each of us is responsible for all of these facets of ourselves. This conscious link between partners keeps sex alive in ways that go far beyond sex toys and fantasy games because it speaks to the real – and eternal – connection between the two individuals. More about this topic in a future post.

 
For more about relationships and how they serve to help us grow and become more of what we can be, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available as a paperback or e-book for Kindle. Download the first chapter here.

Book Description:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.


Friday, August 26, 2011

Does Love Mean Togetherness?


You are in love and in the very early days of the relationship you might (but not all of you), want to be together with the beloved all the time. Every waking and sleeping minute, other than work or duty related, is time to be spent together. And you bask in the bliss of it. Because this is, after all, the very definition of heaven ...

Don't worry: this post is not about what happens when the relationship begins to drift apart. Rather, it's about what happens when you spend too much time together.

It may be that one of the two was quite overwhelmed by the expressed desire of the other to spend so much time together. One may have been very gratified, even flattered to have his or her presence to be so desired. A small nagging voice - generally shut down immediately - may have said every so often that you actually have a life apart from the beloved, that you should not neglect your other interests, friends, and activities to such a degree, but you are so much in love, and it feels so good to be so wanted.

The other may have had - at nano-second moments, also generally to be shut down immediately - a small nagging voice insisting that something was wrong with him or herself for focusing in such microscopic and lens-like fashion on the beloved. For noticing that he/she needed it to be like that, because when the beloved was not around, the partner who desired the constant presence above all, did not feel so good. And - miraculously - as soon as the partner was once more present, the not-so-good feelings evaporated.

Such behavior occurs frequently in relationships. My post is not about the why of it ... that would take too long for a mere blog post ... but about:
  • what you should do if you notice it happening
  • why it's not healthy
If you notice it happening (either of you), and especially if it has happened before, in the past, in other relationships (and sometimes people switch sides: so in this relationship you are the one who is overwhelmed, but in that relationship you might have been the instigator of the overwhelming), then ask yourself how you could incorporate a balanced portion of your 'other' life into the new situation. In other words, instead of letting go of everything you did prior to this relationship, in order to dedicate yourself body and soul to it, try to find a healthy balance between your other life and the relationship.

The reason it is not healthy is because such need, such desire, such obsession (or the allowing of it) to absorb your life because of a relationship, indicates that something is not in balance in you (and this was so long before the relationship walked into your life), and this lack of balance is what makes you crave the presence of (or allow it) the beloved to this degree in your hours and days. This goes to an unhealthy imbalance emotionally and will, eventually almost always lead to the demise of the relationship brought about by the first of the two partners who begins to feel stifled or suffocated. (And I might add, that it can be resolved, but requires much conscious awareness, much patience, and above all, much willingness on the part of both, to work on their own issues that brought them into this situation in the first place).

Healthy, balanced relationships need togetherness, of course, but they also need fresh air, oxygen, and outside stimulation in the form of separate interests, hobbies, types of friends, etc. This doesn't mean you should not spend as much time as possible together, as long as the balance discussed here is also maintained.


For more about healthy relationships, inner balance, emotions, and conscious awareness in love, see my new book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self. It's available at Amazon in paperback and e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. You may also access the first chapter here












Photo Credit: Solomon Islands


Thursday, August 25, 2011

The Truth You Tell Yourself


You might be surprised to discover how much we hide the truth from ourselves. And you'd be surprised, precisely because you may be doing it as well. It's not a question of being dense, or not particularly intelligent, but of not being totally aware, not only of the self, but also of others, or situations that surround us. If we were more aware, we would recognize more truth, and then - quite simply - would lie less to ourselves.

Some examples:
  • I have such a marvelous relationship with my adult children (when in fact, they - your adult children - feel highly uncomfortable in your presence, and continually avoid subjects that cause potential strife, which means that your fields of conversation are becoming more and more narrow, and tend to be purely chosen by you).
  • My staff and I are on excellent terms: look at the results from the last quarter. They work so hard because they know we are all in this together (when in fact, they - your staff - live in trepidation of your autocratic rule, but desperately need their jobs, and hence never say a word that might make you think they are less than totally dedicated to your firm).
  • We have a wonderful time with my writing group / golf club / bridge club / classmates, etc.; we get along so well (when in fact, they - the other members of the group - avoid you as much as possible except during group times: you are never invited along on excursions, or to parties, and there is always some plausible excuse, but the fact is, they eschew your company).
  • I know myself so well ... I really don't need any advice from others - indeed, I'm the one who gives advice to others in my life, because I've read so many books and gone to so many workshops and seminars (when in fact, some of the above points (or similar situations) form part of your life, and you have not recognized it).
So what, exactly, is going on? It's back to the issue of being conscious; of being aware. Of yourself. Of what surrounds you. Conscious awareness means questioning things. So if you are the only one calling your adult kids (they rarely call you to chat), or if you notice that they don't really participate in conversations, other than with non-committals, but you write it off as their overwhelming interest in what you are saying, or if you only ever receive 'yes' answers from your staff, and never any challenging questions, or if you pay attention to the fact that you're not being invited to the other events your 'group' organizes, and ask yourself why, not from the position of blaming them, but from that of asking yourself about yourself, so if these things are happening, and you are closing your eyes to them, or deliberately ignoring the information they are giving you on other levels than the purely obvious, then of course, the truth you are telling yourself is, in fact, NOT the truth!

Writing a short post like this is evidently quite limiting. I've neither given all possible scenarios (not could I), nor all possible solutions. But what I am, in fact, aiming for, is to open your eyes - if any of this applies to you at all, even if only in some oblique fashion - so that you can begin to look differently, hear differently, assimilate differently, and hence react differently. Your truth about yourself may need a revision. And change leads to growth.


For more about living consciously, about relationships, about change and growth, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.
















Foto Credit: Tubuai Mountain in the South Sea Islands

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

What Do We Love When We Love?


Have you ever given it any thought? What, in fact, do we love, when we love?
  • Do we love the feeling of being loved (as opposed to not feeling loved before)?
  • The feeling of being adored (as opposed to not feeling adored before)?
  • The feeling of being doted on (as opposed to not feeling doted on before)?
  • The feeling of being important to someone (as opposed to not feeling important before)?
  • Do we love feeling fulfilled (as opposed to how unfulfilled we felt before)?
  • Do we love feeling secure (as opposed to how insecure we felt before)?
  • Do we love feeling needed (as opposed to not feeling needed before)?
  • Do we love how good we feel when we are with the other (as opposed to not feeling nearly as good without the other)?
  • Do we love knowing we are not alone (as opposed to how we feel when we are alone)?
  • Do we love how the other gazes into our eyes (as opposed to how we feel when no one gazes into our eyes)?
  • Do we love the fact that the other appears to only have eyes for us?
  • Do we love the feeling of being excluded from the world?
  • Do we love how the other shows us how much we are loved?
You might say to me, but of course, all of that is normal when you are in love, and I would not disagree with you in the least. But how much of that has to do with you? I mean: how much of that has to do with how this being in love makes you feel? What have you said - or thought - about the other, with the exception of how the other makes you feel? Have you examined where the other is in all of this? Don't worry - I'm not implying that you are being selfish.

I'm actually asking you to consider that perhaps a part of this whole business of what we love when we love has much more to do with satisfying a deep longing inside ourself that we are not capable of taking care of - or so we think, or have been taught to believe - on our own. And so we need, so to speak, the other to take care of it for us. The other fulfills us, being with other makes us feel secure, needed, important, valuable, etc.

What is this longing? Why does the fulfilling of it by the other make us feel so good? (At least until the relationship palls or goes sour). The longing is for our self-love. We are not taught - generally - to love ourselves, and so we need to fulfill that need with another. And so we seek to do so through our love relationships. And that is precisely why so many of them go sour. If we could learn to fulfill our own needs in the self-love department, the weight of responsiblity in the relationship for making us feel good about ourselves would no longer rest on the hapless shoulders of our partner. We would assume responsibility for it ourselves. And our love relationships would be lighter (by not being burdened by such a load), and yet more profound (because two individuals who come together, already having learned to fulfill their own needs, already having assumed responsibility for their own inner well-being, will reach depths of love that people involved in the other kind of relationship can only dream of).


For much more about self-love, relationships, love, and inner well-being, see my book: Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self. (Available via Amazon in most countries as a paperback and e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications).

Monday, August 22, 2011

Finding Beauty in the Pits


Because I'm so fortunate to live right on the Mediterranean, it's understandably easy to find many beautiful spots to go to for my morning walk. My preferred place is the beach, early, when there is no one, except for the occasional fisherman or dog walker. However, close as it is, it entails an extra 15 minutes walking there and back, or 4 minutes by car there and back, so when I'm in a hurry, I choose another route.

Again, lots to choose from, but the closest, the quickest, the one that will allow me to take my walk and be done in a most time-efficient manner (if that is an issue on the day in question) is one that takes me through a road closed off to traffic, where the weeds have been allowed to grow over the side-walk, so it is no longer visible at all, they are even beginning to encroach on the actual pavement of the street. It's also the favorite walking spot for all the dog lovers of the area, who then allow their pets to defecate and don't pick up after them. The area gets cleaned about once a year by the municipality, so you can imagine the amount of stuff that accumulates from all these pets and their not-so-considerate owners...

However - and this is the point of my post - I notice that each time I walk there (when, as said, I am short of time and can't get to the beach) - while I almost always begin by noticing the debris left there by these owners of the innocent pets, I almost immediately switch to seeing all the other wonderful things that are also there.

I see the white-tailed jackrabbits that jump impossibly high, hurrying from who knows what activity on the manicured golf course across this road in an anxious attempt to get away from my curious eyes to hide in the tree-lined and bushy area on the other side where I can hear them scurrying for many long seconds.



I also see that golf course, of course, slightly in the distance, always immaculate - and while I have no interest whatsoever in the sport - I absolutely love the pristine beauty of the courses, a balsam to the eye when it has been strained from looking at the sun. And at that early hour of the morning, no one is on it yet, save the gardeners, so there is total peace and silence.




Sometimes I am startled into stopping my rather fast powerwalk pace due to the unexpected sight of a breath-taking wildflower at the side of the unkempt road. How grand nature is, I think, and give thanks for such beauty in my morning, knowing full well that the next time I pass through here, even if it's only a question of a few days, the flower will most likely have withered and died. But it served its purpose: to be beautiful and to remind those of us who were able to appreciate it, that beauty is precious.




I always find these occasional walks on that horrid road illuminating. They remind me that beauty exists everywhere, and that it does depend on what we choose to see and hence, what we can feel gratitude for. What are you seeing?




For more about seeing beauty, about gratitude, and about living a life that leads you to inner well-being, peace, and harmony, see my book: Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon in paperback and e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Grow By Listening


Listening to what? Lectures in a university hall? Presentations at a leadership seminar? Those are possibilities, but not what I'm referring to here today.

Grow by listening to your own body.

You clearly know how to pay attention to it when it hurts, or is hungry, or feels cold. But what about paying attention to it:
  • when someone yells at you? Which part of your body reacts to that?
  • when someone crosses a boundary? Which part of your body reacts to that?
  • when someone takes advantage of your weaker professional, social or financial position? Which part of your body reacts to that?
  • when someone manipulates you and you are aware of it? Which part of your body reacts to that?
  • when someone leeches the energy out of you? Which part of your body reacts to that?
  • when someone lies to you and you know they are doing so? Which part of your body reacts to that?
  • when someone does or says something that you know is not right, and you do nothing? Which part of your body reacts to that?
  • when someone expects you to do something that is not part of the 'deal'? Which part of your body reacts to that?
All of these possibilities may lead to your body evidencing discomfort in the solar plexus, in the chest, the throat, or the heart, among others. These symptoms are messages from your body to you, just as a pain in your leg or head, or a fever, or a festering blister are also messages, albeit of another kind. So when you receive the messages that are not based on a physical problem, you need to heed them in the same way you would heed the other ones, and that means you need to do something.

If you begin by recognizing that you get messages of this kind, and then by paying attention to these messages, you are learning and growing just because you are becoming aware. When you then ... at some future point if you can't yet ... undertake some action (verbal or otherwise) with regards to that message, you will have grown even more.


For much more about boundaries and growth and self-love, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self.




Some early reviews:







"Gabriella Kortsch uses her talent and experience to write the instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution and our integration within the universe." MICHAEL HABERNIG & APRIL HANNAH; Producers, The Path: The Afterlife and The Path 11 Documentaries









"This meticulously researched and crafted book is clearly the masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul, one who thinks deeply, feels deeply, and cares deeply about the well-being of the world and its humankind. Reading it will change your life; beginning to live actively any of its ideas, principles, and suggestions will transform your life. And bring you safely and joyfully home to your true self, your soul. I found it dazzling, challenging, and wondrously useful." PEGGY RUBIN, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author, To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre."





The Soul doesn't get sick but it does need nourishment; if not it seems as if our life starves to death. This wonderful book by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch is definitely healthy "Soul food". It becomes clear that as the personality endeavors to "rewire" the Soul, it is its own energy or conscious awareness that is elevated to that higher level where the invisible becomes visible and experienced as peace, joy, love and freedom. A treat to enjoy and celebrate." ERIC ROLF; author, Soul Medicine: The Heart of Healing.








"Rewiring the Soul is a revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering and transcendence. It not only lays out the essential steps for inner freedom and joy but it also illuminates the way to true human potential: the stunning and dynamic "Possible Self." Written with clarity, compassion and wisdom, this chronicle is not one of mere speculation, but arises from the depths of hard won personal experience. Gabriella Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time." PAUL RADEMACHER, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author, A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe






"I thought I could pick just one chapter to write a review, but I couldn't .... I was glued to the chair as I read Rewiring the Soul ... a literary, in-depth masterpiece to the human psyche, behavior and ultimate transformation. Exquisitely written, beautifully executed." ALI R. RODRIGUEZ, Business Coach, co-author, Mastering the Art of Success with Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen (Aug. 2011)

"A glance at the contents of Rewiring the Soul will tell you much about the values promoted: awareness, freedom, peace and love. I fully agree with the author that it is all about re-connecting with our authentic 'loving self': it is only then that we can deeply transform our life while also inspiring a transformation in the lives of others! Through this powerful book, Gabriella Kortsch honestly shares her love of serving the inner potential and the spiritual growth of human beings with passion, joy and commitment." ELISABETTA FRANZOSO; International Speaker, Coach, author, Stella's Mum Gets Her Groove Back: A True Story





"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound." PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself


"Rewiring the Soul is a thoughtful guide to the peace and joy that self-government through inner awareness brings. In the words of author Gabriella Kortsch, anyone's ideal 'possible human' becomes their actual reality by following the simple inner steps in this remarkable book." JIM WAWRO; author, Ask Your Inner Voice










"This book is a gift to humanity, a valuable tool in aiding seekers to accomplish mastery of their own lives. Gabriella Kortsch provides clear steps to help people find peace in a practical and powerful way. She does not ask you to give up anything other then what no longer serves you. Brilliantly written!" HILLARY RAIMO; Author & Radio Host

"Rewiring the Soul is the human being's directory to the soul. This inspirational book asks you to simply open yourself to the possibility you are much more than you have considered yourself to be; in truth, you are spirit in form living a soul-directed life. It is a breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent, and every soul awaiting discovery. Read it cover to cover first; then place it close at hand to pick up every time your mind strays from your soul's message radiating from within the heart." TONI PETRINOVICH, Ph.D.; author, The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human






In Rewiring the Soul, Gabriella Kortsch shows us in very practical ways how to lead a soul-guided, soul-infused life. With the wisdom of one who has traveled far and learned much, Dr. Kortsch blazes a path for all who have the courage to follow. The rewards for walking that path are great: an understanding of why we are here; an expanded awareness of who we really are; a new or heightened sense of purpose and meaning; and a deeper appreciation of life's many blessings. Highly recommended. ROBERT SCHWARTZ, author, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born (yoursoulsplan.com)

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Forgiving YOURSELF & the Pain Body


You may have this business about forgiving others down pat ... but when it comes to forgiving yourself, things look somewhat different. Perhaps you are remembering:
  • your mother's request when you were 16 to stay in with her on a certain night because she wasn't feeling great, but you wanted to go and party (you are now in your mid-40's), and of course you know you were such a selfish daughter
  • when you weren't nice to the cat the day that you were so angry at your partner, that you yelled at the poor little thing and scared it, and you know you were so horrible
  • your eldest child's nightmare when she was 7 (she is now 29), that you paid little attention to, and you know you did not make her feel safe that night the way a good and caring mother would have
  • the fact that you cheated on that vital exam that made all the difference to your being offered the job at that top-tier firm right out of school, and you know you are the lowest of the low
  • the look in your partner's eyes when he/she realized you had lied that day that you can never forget, and you know you can never be forgiven ... not by others and certainly not by yourself ...
So, when these (and other examples) arise in your mind, rather than forgiving yourself, you move into the pain body (a term I often borrow from Eckhart Tolle), and in the pain body you revel in your loathing of yourself, in the pain you feel for having let that person (or animal, or shcool, or firm) down in that way, and you go over and over and over the event, each time sinking into deeper pain and disgust and moving farther and farther away from forgiving yourself.

But it's precisely there where you must stop, just before you descend into the pain body, and regain a conscious focus on what you are doing, by virtue first and foremost of your thoughts, and make the conscious decision that you will not go down there. You realize that going down there means you are actually allowing yourself to go to a pity party, where you get to pity that horrible thing that you are, as opposed to taking the very conscious step of not going there, and then, with a great deal of awareness - beginning the conscious process of forgiving yourself. You do this by intending it. By telling yourself each time you go to those places, that you intend to forgive yourself. And then you move on. Preferably into gratitude, because that moves you into the present. It's a process. It has to be done over and over. But it can be done and it works. So start now. Today.


For more about forgiving the self, and loving the self, and remaining in the present by the use of gratitude, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Do Exceptional Work

Yeah, yeah ... now you're sounding like my mother ... maybe that's true. But here's the thing: if you consistently did exceptional work, no matter what you are doing, what difference would it make to your life?

Washing dishes? Do it in an exceptional way ... doesn't take longer, but looks better and above all, makes you feel better about yourself.

Writing an essay or a thesis? Do it in an exceptional way ... this one may take longer, but not only will you feel better about yourself, you might get a much better grade, or even find that the exceptional paper has moved you from one square on the chessboard to a much more advantageous one.

Taking a walk with your 6-year-old? Do it in an exceptional way ... this one may or may not take longer, but here again you will not only feel better about yourself, but you are creating memories for that child of yours that may never fade through all the years of his/her life, memories that may be recounted to your future grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Just three little examples. Where has each of them taken you, as opposed to where you would have gone had you not done the activity in an exceptional way? It has taken you into the present moment because you have been paying acute attention to all that you were doing during the undertaking of said activity. That is precisely one of the biggest ways of doing something in an exceptional way. BEING PRESENT. You can give your 'all' when you are being present. You certainly can not do that when you are not totally present, and hence it is almost impossible to do something in an exceptional way when you are not present.


I was inspired to write this short post by one of my favorite quotes by Robin Sharma, author of (among others) The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams & Reaching Your Destiny

The quote is:

You can do exceptional work or you can make excuses. but you can't do both.








From the Introduction:
This book was written for you. It’s no accident that you picked it up or decided to buy it. There are no coincidences and the fact that you are holding this book in your hands simply means that you have now come to a place where you can begin, should you so decide, to apply its information. Lest you are put off by its deceptive simplicity, each chapter contains, in distilled and synthesized form, teachings that will allow you to live a life filled with well-being and satisfaction that in most cases can only be understood after many years of searching. Often the ways by which I came to understand the information were very roundabout, and included not only experiential living where I took my share of emotional risks, but also a pursuit of knowledge and understanding that took me down many intellectual, academic and professional paths. Much joy but also heartache, pain and many tears went into what I’ve extracted into the essence of this book and I offer it from the bottom of my heart and with much love so that you, the reader, may apply it in order to make your own life rich, abundant, and filled with love, joy, peace, harmony, and inner freedom.


Photo: The Flaming Mountains in Turpan, China


Monday, August 15, 2011

Be Brave!


As a child do you remember feeling fear when you took your first step? Not only do I doubt that you remember the occasion, but I also doubt you felt fear. Because the look on children's faces when they do it, is one of excitement, daring, courage, and joy. Perhaps a bit of trepidation and wonder if it will really work, but all the other feelings are in there as well.

As we grow older and as we hear so many messages over and over again about being careful, many of us lose that erstwhile courage and excitement.

I'd like you to think about that again.
  • Since when have doubts been ruling your decisions?
  • Since when has fear about risk been ruling your decisions?
  • Since when has worry about ridicule been ruling your decisions?
  • Since when has concern about failure been ruling your decisions?
Think of that one-year-old just barely taking the first step ever. Was he stopped in his tracks by doubt? (I'd wager if he was thinking about anything at all, it was: all of them do it, so I can too!) Was she pulled back by fear of risk? (I'd wager she had zero images of herself falling or hurting herself). Was he waylaid by worry about ridicule? (I'd wager he loved the laughter and clapping that greeted that first attempt!) Was she concerned about failure? (I'd wager she was only imagining herself on two legs, imagining herself doing it as perfectly as all those others about her that already knew how to do it).

This is what we need to do when we feel fear, doubt, worry and concern of failure cloud our vision. Our goals will never come to fruition if we hold back for those reasons. Obviously I am not suggesting you step to the edge of a precipice and jump off in the assumption that a miracle will keep you flying in the air. But I am suggesting that doing your due diligence is enough.  Go after your dreams, visions and goals and do not be deterred by fear. The secure threshold of your comfort zone is partially responsible for those fears. Find someone who has walked in similar paths. Look to them. Analyze which part of their path you can also follow until you must, eventually, hew your own. So be brave. Be bold.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.
Henry David Thoreau

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
via W. H. Murray in The Scottish Himalaya Expedition


For more about the topic of comfort zones, courage and inner peace, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, now available as a paperback and e-book for Kindle and Kindle applications

Book Description:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.







Thursday, August 11, 2011

Remember to Forgive


Did you say you wanted to think about forgiving?
  • Remember to forgive
  • Forgiving allows you to HEAL!
  • Forgiving OPENS space inside of you!
  • By FORGIVING you reclaim ENERGY!
  • FORGIVING lightens your BURDEN!
  • FORGIVING lets you see the SUN instead of clouds
  • FORGIVE & be FREE of negativity!
  • Each time you HURT remember to FORGIVE (NOT condone)
  • FORGIVING brings FREEDOM!
  • FORGIVING brings the WHOLE of you into the NOW
  • FORGIVING lets you breathe
  • FORGIVE & see LIFE a new way!
  • Forgive and see YOURSELF a new way!

For much more about the topic of forgiving, self-love, inner peace and freedom, see my new book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self available both in print and Kindle e-book

(For EU readers, the price for Kindle is slightly better at the UK or Germany site, and is text-to-speech enabled for all sites.) The print version - even factoring in shipping - is best priced at the USA site ... none of this is in my hands ... )

Interview About the Book:

Who is the book written for?

Rewiring the Soul is written for anybody who suffers and I guess that means just about all of us! It is written for anybody who has not yet experienced enduring happiness and inner well-being; anybody who is reaching for inner peace; anybody whose life is not as they would wish it to be.

What can a reader expect to gain by reading this book? What makes it different from most other transformational or self-help books out there?

So many wonderful teachers tell us about working on our spiritual selves. So many other wonderful teachers show us how to work on our psycho-emotional selves. But very few actually integrate the two. And Rewiring the Soul is my response to that challenge. Rewiring the Soul brings together the need to take your daily life in hand with the need to put your spiritual life in order as well. By daily life I mean your personal life, your professional life, the way you do or do not love yourself and all that such an attitude entails: conscious awareness, healthy boundaries, meaning in your life, recognizing you always have a choice, and taking responsibility for all your choices, etc., and by spiritual life I mean the inner connection to your eternal self.

If you have learned how to meditate, or do yoga, or whatever it is that you do, have you also learned how to observe yourself in the middle of an argument with your rebellious teenage son or your angry partner and hence choose to react differently because you have learned to love yourself enough to do so? If you have learned how to communicate more effectively with your children, spouse, friends, colleagues or employees, have you also learned how to be mindful and connect to yourself in meaningful ways to achieve that spiritual balance in your life?

While Rewiring the Soul is about so much more than that, those previous examples give an idea of what my book is about and how it does so in such a way that our psychological and spiritual selves nurture each other.

In a nutshell: neither the spiritual nor the psychological or emotional dimensions of your life will work if you neglect:
  1. your inner connection to the eternal self while you seek happiness in the outer world
  2. your happiness in the outer world while you seek the connection to the inner eternal self
It was Goethe who said "If everyone will sweep in front of their own door, soon the entire world will be clean". In Rewiring the Soul 'sweeping in front of your own door' means bringing yourself to the utmost point of inner and outer growth, creating progress in body, mind, and soul. This literally means that you have already begun to change the world because of how you are changing yourself.

Are there many exercises in the book?

Not at all. This book does not mean hard work, or spending a lot of time doing specific things. It simply means that as you read - if you so desire - you begin to incorporate small changes into your daily life. And so it begins. And the quality of your life changes...

How did you come to write this book?

For years the essential content of Rewiring the Soul was like a small, recurring voice in my head; it was always there, and simply would not leave me alone. I had dozens of excuses for not writing it: I was working on my Ph.D. in psychology, I was teaching at a state university, I had three sons, later I was occupied with moving back to Spain, I was setting up my private practice, I had a monthly newsletter to write in English and Spanish, I had a weekly one-hour radio show to broadcast, I had a daily blog post to write, I facilitated numerous workshops and gave frequent speeches, and apart from all of this busy activity and work, sometimes I even had a life. In short, I told myself the book would simply have to wait. But just as a splinter under your skin eventually needs to be seen to, I ultimately realized that the only way I was going to be able to honor the more and more loudly clamoring voice in my head - and heart - was to sit down and write the book.

And you know, that goes to meaning. We all need meaning in our lives, and although I had many things that gave much significance to my life already, the inner urging and excitement I felt each time I thought about Rewiring the Soul compelled me to write the book. Rumi puts it beautifully: "When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy".


Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Who Angers You?


That's an easy one, you tell me. There are so many weird people out there, people who are inconsiderate, people who are inefficient, people who are rude, or downright insulting, people who don't think, they just don't use their head, people who make me waste my time. Those are people who anger me.

And don't get me started on those people that think the State owes them a living, or the people who shirk their civic duty when it comes time to give back a little, or hey, what about all those smug, self-righteous, arrogant and pompous people that think they know it all better, or do it all better than the rest of us. Those are people who anger me.

And of course the ones who actually think they are better than the rest of us. Because of the car they drive, or the clothes they wear, the house they own, the vacations they take, or the people they socialize with. They think they're better than the rest of us because they have more, and so they look down on us. Those are people who anger me.



And then, you know, there are those people whose motivating force is hate or racism or bigotry, and they are so often the authors of riots and acts of terrorism, or those others who wish to merely enrich their own accounts, and hence cause famines, or slavery, or wars or genocide. Those are people who anger me.



So of course people like that anger me. How could they not?

Here's how not: by allowing yourself to be angered - no matter what the provocation - you are allowing the other to be in charge of your state of inner well-being. You can be a much more effective harbinger of positive social change if you do not allow your emotions to be so swayed, but not because you are pretending whatever it was that was just said or just happened did not, but because from a place of conscious awareness you choose not to do so. And in that place you maintain a state of inner balance, from which you will be able to do something about what is happening in ways that go far beyond the ways of anger.

Being angered by another - no matter what the provocation - gives the other power over you. Think about that. Do you want something or someone to have power over you? I would imagine not. So therefore that implies that you need to become so conscious of yourself and aware of your reactions that you have time for the brief inner dialogue that allows you to make other choices ... to choose something different than anger. Perhaps you will choose to clearly indicate that the other person has overstepped boundaries. Or perhaps you will write to your local government in order to change some current by-laws. Or perhaps you will join others to look for new and life-giving ways of dealing with the many things that go wrong in our society. But you will have chosen from a place of awareness as opposed to having not chosen and having reacted in anger from a place of inner blindness.


For more about being aware of your emotions and creating a state of inner well-being, see my new book Rewiring the Soul, both in print and Kindle versions.

Product Description


Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

'Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.