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Monday, December 19, 2011

Freedom From the Paralysis of Inner Doubt


Can we ever live without some measure of inner doubt? Perhaps in some areas of our lives that is possible, but not in others, where we feel less secure. To live without doubt in at least some areas seems impossible in a world - and in a life - that is in continual motion and growth. But my contention here is not so much to eradicate inner doubt, as to deal with the part of it that paralyzes us. As you begin to doubt yourself - in whatever area of your life - you begin to over analyze, you begin to second guess, you begin to procrastinate making decisions, and you begin to hesitate. Motion is lost, movement is slowed down, and it is even possible that stagnation - at least in that area of your life - begins.

As you listen to the inner voices of doubt, you need to have a plan:
  1. Go to your original premise - whatever you were thinking about:
    1. A decision? Where to continue your studies; whether to leave your current employment in order to seek a more challenging (or better paid) position; whether you want to get married to your current partner; which gift to buy for a friend's birthday; whether to get the blue or the gray curtains; where to take your next vacation; whether to have shrimp or steak at the restaurant ... as you see doubts can assail us in major, life-changing decisions, but also in smaller, relatively unimportant ones
    2. An ideological, religious, or political stance on some point? Perhaps you had been convinced of one point of view until recently when new events, new knowledge that came to you, or a new uinderstanding has shaken your previous belief, and now you stand before the possibility of changing that belief for another
    3. A way of looking at yourself? It may include much doubt and hesitation about your own abilities, talents, intellect, looks, worthiness, likeability, etc.
  2. Gather information: get the pros and cons, separate myth from reality, if necessary pull in a few trusted people in order to get a few (very few) other opinions or thoughts 
  3. Look at your material and always keep your gut instinct and your heart in mind (see also my Introducing Our Second and Third Brain) as you read through the material with your rational brain at the same time as you pay attention to your other brains: your gut and your heart. At the beginning of doing things in this fashion, you may find that you pay more attention to the rational brain and less to the other two, but as you become more attuned to the language and signs of the other two, and as you begin to trust their information, you will feel more comfortable in always taking them into account, in order to create an inner balance between your three brains (three brains that have been neuro-scientifically acknowledged, as you will see if you read the article mentioned above)
  4. So now you've looked at your 'dilemma', you've gathered information, you've looked at it from the position of your three brains.
  5. Now let it sit for a day or two ... sometimes just the overnight process is enough ... sometimes is requires a bit more, but be strict with yourself to not allow the mulling process to take overly long. Here you are no longer actively thinking about whatever the dilemma is, rather, you are letting it marinate inside of you, after having taken the above steps.
  6. Remember: doubts may still arise, but you are focused on listening to your three brains, and on getting a synergistic reaction from your self about the situation.
  7. When you take action, even if you feel that there is still considerable doubt, take action in the knowledge that you have done what you could to bring your process to the best possible outcome for you or the situation you are considering at this time. Does that mean that there could be other decisions? Of course. But as I wrote a few days ago in Your Possible Selves, every decision you take, over the course of your entire life, could have been different. Therefore, by uising the process described herein, you can take some of the pain of paralysis away from that process and move forward.
Remember, inner doubt is anathema to your well-being, but it can also be highly useful. If it allows you to take steps of the kind mentioned in this post, it is helpful and will keep you from taking rash decisions. If, on the other hand, it drags you into a quagmire of hesitancy and ultimately stagnation, your life will only grow and evolve with great difficulty. Finding freedom from the paralysis of inner doubt is another step on the road to inner freedom about which I am continually posting on this blog.



For more information about being aware, about doubt and moving forward and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle. Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.



Monday, December 12, 2011

Your Possible Selves


Just think about it: each decision you make takes you down a new possible avenue:
  • when you were a child and loved speaking the language your grandparents spoke, which was not the language of the country in which you lived, you opened the door to that job as a translator at the UN in New York or Geneva 20 years later
  • when you were a teen and you practiced the piano with perserverance and discipline instead of going out with your friends, you opened the door to becoming a concert pianist - or a fabulous music teacher
  • likewise when you were a teen and you said no to cigarettes or drugs or alcohol, despite the derision of some of your peers, you opened the door to inner strength of character
  • and when you started college and opted for semesters filled with a heavy credit load in order to finish more quickly because you wanted to get to medical school fast, you reinforced a habit of hard work that eventually led you to success
  • when you chose not to have to be right in every argument, you opened the door to specific relationships as opposed to others
  • when you chose to look more at the inner human being as opposed to the immediate attraction of the outer and more material qualities, you also opened the door to specific relationships as opposed to others
Examples abound, and as you will have understood, each of the above decisions led to one possible self evolving and not another. What happens when you have one or two glasses of wine at dinner or when you go out, instead of three or four or many more? What are the different possible outcomes? And what happens when you choose one kind of reading material or television viewing instead of another? What are the possible outcomes? (And not just for you, but for those who live with you; for example, your children). What happens when you choose to be patient instead of impatient, or accepting instead of judgemental?

So you can see that you are choosing possible selves ... possible outcomes every minute of every day. Do you choose to exercise? Do you choose healthy food? Do you choose 'healthy' friends? How about the thoughts you choose? And the feelings that derive thereof?

Is it clear to you that in so many ways you are responsible ... so very responsible ... for your possible outcomes? If your parents were alcoholics, or if you live in a totalitarian regime and are jailed for political reasons, or if someone crashes into your car and leaves you a quadriplegic, or if you are passed over for that promotion you wanted so very much (and you had done all that was possible in order to achieve it), or if you were not elected school valedictorian (and you had worked very hard all throughout your school years in order to achieve it), you are clearly not responsible for that ... but you are responsible for all the reactions and choices you make from that moment forward.

Are you choosing to be responsible for your possible selves and your possible outcomes today?

For much more about choices, meaning , purpose and significance in your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

Description: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.




A Review From the Back Cover:


In Rewiring the Soul, Gabriella Kortsch shows us in very practical ways how to lead a soul-guided, soul-infused life. With the wisdom of one who has traveled far and learned much, Dr. Kortsch blazes a path for all who have the courage to follow. The rewards for walking that path are great: an understanding of why we are here; an expanded awareness of who we really are; a new or heightened sense of purpose and meaning; and a deeper appreciation of life's many blessings. Highly recommended.

ROBERT SCHWARTZ, author, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born (http://www.yoursoulsplan.com/ )

Image: El Arco, Cabo San Lucas, Baja California

Friday, December 9, 2011

Your Parents, Your Children, and the Marital Bed


So you had a mind-blowing passionate affair. It lasted five weeks, or six months, or two years. You each lived in your own place. Then you decided to move in together. Maybe you even marry. You were so much in love. It made sense to commit. But now, your once passionate partner who desired you so much doesn’t want to make love anymore. They avoid you, they shun you, and you are bewildered, self doubt arises, you feel hurt, unloved, and finally angry. So you leave, or you threaten to leave, or you find yourself someone else who does find you desirable. Suddenly, magically, your partner wants you again. The passion is back. The old chemistry is flying once more. So then things settle down. Everyone is happy just like at the beginning. But it happens again. Your partner doesn’t want to make love anymore. What on earth is going on?

Some readers may be surprised by this month’s topic. It veers away from the more self developmental nature of past articles and moves into the relationship many of you may have had with one or both of your parents, and then the content of the article walks right into the privacy of your bedroom as an adult. I have chosen this topic based on the queries I receive and the number of clients I have seen over time that present with this dilemma.

Men

Are you a man, and when you were a child you were – in some fashion or another – abandoned by your parents? Perhaps you were ill and had to spend a lengthy period of time in hospital, and perhaps the hospital was too far from your parents’ residence for them to visit you more than once a week. Perhaps your parents – and particularly your mother - were kind and caring, but you perceived that they simply did not love you enough for your needs. Perhaps an event occurred while you were still a child, that caused you to feel rejected by your mother in a particularly important way.

Women

Are you a woman, and when you were a child you were – in some fashion or another – abandoned by your father? (See also my article: Fatherless Women). Perhaps your parents – and particularly your father - were kind and caring, but you perceived that they simply did not love you enough for your needs. Perhaps your parents divorced and your father left and rarely saw you. Perhaps he was physically there, but emotionally absent. Perhaps he rejected you. Perhaps you felt he never gave you the approval you so avidly sought. Perhaps he (or another important male in the close family environment) abused you sexually, physically, psychologically, or emotionally.

When Love is Learned Incorrectly

Whatever the case, in the scenario both for boys and girls, the missing ingredient, or the essential point to realize, is that something has gone awry in the way the child views the love he or she receives from the parent. In other words, the child has not received – or perceived – a developmentally healthy lesson about love from the parent.

And what happens when you learn something incorrectly?

Think for a moment how you were taught how to hold a pencil when you were learning how to write. Most of us learned it properly. Some didn’t and you can see it in the way they hold a pen, or in the way they scrunch their fingers together. How about when you learned how to slice or dice vegetables? Do you julienne? Or do you chop and cut a mess of unequal misshapen pieces? And what about how you learned how to use Excel? Or sew? Or ride a bike? Or dance the tango?

So what happens when you learn something incorrectly? Don’t many people continue to do whatever it is wrong again and again and again? Until something happens to make them want to change their method?

And this is exactly what happens when a child learns dysfunctional lessons about how love works. The child continues to “do it” incorrectly. Why? Because he or she believes that that is the right way to have love.

Love Means Getting Hurt…

So here you have a kid who learned that love means getting hurt…whether the pain is in the heart or in the body is actually not so important. Pain of whatever kind hurts, and much of this kind of pain, however it originated, leaves noticeable impressions and trauma. But before the pain came, the child felt – even if only briefly – real love. The child experienced something that he or she believed to be the real thing. The love it felt for the parent was magnificent, the way love is meant to be, and the child reveled in it, the way most of us do when we feel we are truly loved and cherished. The child believed the parent reciprocated this love in the most wonderful and caring way. The child felt safe. The child felt loved. The child felt secure.

And then the blow fell.

Whether it came in the form of rejection or coldness or abuse or abandonment is not as important as the message the child gives itself in order to try to understand what happened. And although the content of this message may be varied, with consequences of a varied nature, for the purposes of today’s article, the message the child gave itself was that love is not safe. Love is dangerous. Watch it! When you feel truly safe and loved, something bad will happen.

Looking for Love

Fast forward. The child is now a teen or an adult, embarking on relationships. Keenly interested in finding love. Frequently looking for it in the guise of sex (see also my article: Sexual Energy). Frequently this individual is – or appears to be - highly passionate. Sometimes this individual sees him or herself as more passionate than most other people. He or she may believe sometimes, somehow, that sex is love. And when this individual finds another person with whom the sexual flame ignites in the way of great passions, then typically, frequently, this person falls desperately, frantically, obsessively, fearfully, longingly in love. (See also: I Need You…I Need You Not).

Passion and Love

All of the adjectives in the last sentence that describe the state of mind of our protagonist as he or she falls in love tend – in some fashion or another - to form part of the scenario which is now choreographed (see also my article Are You in Love, Or Do You Love?). A dance begins. The individual often shows him or herself as a highly passionate, highly sexual person. He or she shows boundless desire for the partner, particularly during the phase of the relationship where the partner is not yet quite committed. None of this happens deliberately, or in a calculating fashion. It is an unconscious pattern in which sexuality plays a leading role, but not a scheming mindset designed to catch an unwitting prey.

The less accessible the partner, the more highly the flames of passion will leap, and eventually in some cases, the couple commits to a life in common. They decide to live together, to get married, or even, in some instances, to commit by deciding to have a child or buy a home together.

Commitment

So now our protagonist has achieved what appears to have been the goal: love, a committed relationship, a life together. Finally there is this long-desired state of love. Love is corresponded. A long awaited state of circumstances has arrived, so now they live happily ever after, right? Well, possibly yes, but not, perhaps, without first going through some tough trials that involve the most intimate aspect of the couple’s bedroom…the sexual relationship.

Arctic Winds

Now a phase begins that is generally misunderstood by both partners. Neither can explain how this once passionate person quickly turns into someone who shuns the marital bed, making up the most ludicrous excuses to avoid sex, or, if sex continues to play a part in the relationship, the partner who is turning off, finds it more and more difficult to continue playing a role that is no longer tenable. In other words, the erstwhile passionate individual no longer wants sex. He or she may even find it disgusting, having a hard time keeping this fact from the bewildered partner, and frequently the turned off partner will do his or her utmost to make certain the partner does not know how much sex has become repulsive, because love has not necessarily diminished, and there is no wish to hurt the shunned partner further.

In the meantime of course, the confused partner suffers a gradually decreasing sense of self esteem, at least as far as his or her sexuality is concerned. He or she may believe that sexual desire and hence the frequency of sex has waned because he is less attractive, less desirable, or because the partner has found someone else. They may also believe that the partner has become frigid or important, indeed, the person who no longer wants sex may believe this also. Occasionally they may seek out a new sexual partner, just to convince themselves that they can still function. Many things are imagined, but the truth of the matter is rarely realized, particularly not by the partner who has turned physically cold. And the solution never lies in exchanging one partner for another, because invariably the pattern will repeat itself. Like most issues I discuss in my articles, this one must be resolved from within and not from without.

The Danger Zone

The truth of the matter – at least in some instances of the type of background described above – is the fact that the individual with the difficult childhood came to believe, back then, and on subconscious levels, that being safe in a loving situation is the threshold to some kind of pain…emotional pain, psychological pain, etc. When this person was a child, and when he or she felt safe and loved, something happened to cause this pain. The connection between feeling safe and loved on the one hand and pain or danger on the other hand, has been clearly established in the subconscious mind. So when this person finds him or herself in a safe loving situation, a type of inner panic button begins screeching a warning, albeit on subconscious levels, and something has to be done to upset the applecart and avert the danger.

This is the moment that some of the people in this situation turn “cold” on their partners and sex goes down the tube. Almost as though by doing that, the connection between love and safety is successfully broken. They have been striving for just such a situation for so long, but nevertheless, they are sabotaging it in the most insidious way. Insidious not only for their partner, but also for themselves. And of course no one knows what on earth is going on. Typically the individual who no longer desires the other continues to love the other very much. At least for a while. They feel tremendously guilty about not desiring them. The other partner feels rejected, but the one who is off sex, in time may begin to believe that it’s actually due to the fact that the partner truly no longer is desirable. Or that their personal hygiene is off, or that their love-making techniques are no longer interesting, none of which of course have any relation to the real reason. Ultimately neither partner is looking for the answers inside. Ultimately it is such a difficult situation that many couples just give up. The guilt and the hurt can grow to enormous proportions.

So Now What?

There are solutions. But I can’t pretend they are easy. Or even that there are always solutions. (See also: Marriage in the 21st Century). The dynamics of this particular psycho-emotional dilemma whose almost invisible tentacles reach into an individual’s sexuality, are difficult to disentangle. They require a great deal of awareness, not only on the part of the person who has gone cold, but also on the part of the partner. For some reason the rejected partner has also drawn this into his or her life, and so, on another level, this is a secondary dilemma that also needs to be faced, but that is the topic for another article.

If you are reading this and have recognized yourself or your partner, I urge you to seek help. Not because either of you is sick, but because this is a hard one to grapple with on your own. A very important element of the solution lies in removing pressure from finding the resolution as the solution is being sought. By that I mean that although the solution needs to be sought actively, it needs to be done in such a way that the partner who has gone cold does not feel pressured to have sex for a time. Another very important element is allowing love to live and flow despite the problem, in order that the partner who has gone cold begins to realize that he or she is loved despite the problem. For some people, on the receiving end of the sexual coldness this may be impossible, and in that case, the relationship has probably come to an end. But for those who are capable of continuing to love, there is hope for the relationship, and hope for the eventual resurgence of passion. And finally, the most important element of the solution lies in psychological and emotional awareness on the part of both partners about the dynamics of what is occurring, and to recognize that love – especially when our early lessons about it have been dysfunctional - is both the cause of the problem and the solution to the problem.



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For much more about relationships, love, passion, meaning , purpose and significance in  your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

A Review From the Back Cover:

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound." PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - www.trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself




Image: Bora Bora

Friday, December 2, 2011

Crossing Thresholds to Greater Growth


Venturing Into the Unknown


Just a few words today about change, newness, and the unknown. We tend to fear it. We tend to think that because we are changing to something different (job, challenge, city, country, relationship, environment of any kind), or doing something new, or going to some type of unknown element in our lives as opposed to what we have done to this point, we will have difficulty with it or even fail. The new aspect can even be something such as changing a behavior, exchanging one way of doing something for another, because we have come to recognize that it is better (for example, when people learn to set healthy boundaries (see also Do Your Relationship Boundaries Contribute to Your Well-Being?). So when they do this, people are generally fearful at the beginning of putting this new behavior into practice, because even though they see its great value for their own psychological health (and that of any of their relationships), actually doing what it takes to have healthy boundaries can be daunting when one has not been doing it.

But the real point of today’s article is to discuss the fear.

The Many Faces of Fear

Fear of the unknown. Fear of the untried. Fear of stepping outside of our comfort zone (see also Leaving Your Comfort Zone: Fear of Emotional Expression).

What exactly does this fear tell us?

First of all, welcome it. Recognize that it is the hallmark of growth to come. Fear of this type signals that as you cross a new threshold into a new arena, you will be learning something that will move your process of growth up a notch.

Secondly, recognize that you have been in this place many times before, with all the other things you have done or lived through for the first time in your life in the past, and now you are much more – or even totally - at ease and comfortable with them. You passed over the threshold when you did whatever it was for the first time, and now you are in an entirely new place. But since you are already comfortable with whatever it was that once caused your fear, you no longer view it as something threatening and fearful. Use that "success" experience (the Germans call it Erfolgserlebniss) to help you cross the new threshold. Use the knowledge that what was once so far outside your comfort zone, has now become your new comfort zone. Recognize that the fear you feel indicates that you are in the process of expanding this comfort zone once again, and that this will bring about new growth. (Also see Making Fear of the Unknown Work for You).

In other words: fear that is felt before starting something new could in fact be a good sign, because it means that once again you are on the road to new growth. Your life and your world are expanding, and you are vital and vibrant and alive in this process. In such a case, fear could be defined as your friend.

Growth Takes Place at the Borders of Chaos and Order

I recently listened to a short interview of John DeMartini. He said something to the effect that the greatest growth takes place at the borders of chaos and order.

That’s a fascinating theory. It takes you back to Hegel, the German philosopher (and even to Marx), and the concept of dialectical reasoning (thesis, antithesis, and synthesis), where the transition of thought moves from an initial conviction about something, to its opposite, and then to a new, higher conception that involves but transcends both of them.

Order might be likened to the thesis aspect of Hegelian philosophy, chaos to antithesis, and finally, the new, higher order, i.e. the place where growth has taken place, and is now both assimilated and visible in its manifestation of the personality, is the synthesis. Once the new thought or conviction about something (the new synthesis) has remained this new order for some time, and hence has become becomes the new thesis, the entire process repeats itself, because without it, there is no growth.

You might say that when chaos is the determining factor, when there is no longer any order, there is no homeostasis or balance in the personality, and until it again finds an equilibrium – but at a higher level – chaos reigns. When, however, balance is achieved, a new synthesis takes place, and homeostasis is once again in evidence.

Inner Growth Needs Some Type of Friction

What all of this boils down to as stated in slightly different terms at the beginning of this article is: inner growth needs some type of friction (fear, pain, suffering, etc.), or stated in other words: chaos, antithesis, lack of balance, for the personality to seek a new order, a new balance, a new synthesis on higher levels. I’ve even heard of people talking about it from the point of view of the actual brain re-structuring itself on new levels after the initial scrambling about in chaos to search for a new balance. Neuroscientists would refer to new neural pathways having been formed in the pre-frontal cortex that lead the individual to a higher level of functioning. (See also Creating New Neural Pathways (And Getting a Better Life in the Process) this link also points to a wonderful audio broadcast about this general topic).

So looking at it from that point of view, I suggest that you welcome situations that appear in your life that you might have regarded as difficulties or hardships, stress-filled times, and moments saturated with problem after problem, as times when your greatest inner growth can take place. Observe yourself as you deal with the situation, observe how you look for, and eventually find solutions, observe how you apply them, and how they then begin to form part of your normal life, and ultimately, observe how your parameters have expanded, how your comfort zone has grown, and how you yourself have become a much richer personality, a human being with a new order and equilibrium that must in the future, if further growth is to take place, again give way to another restructuring.



For more information about being aware, about success and failure and the way your thoughts and feelings about those subjects influence you and what to do about it, about inner well-being, inner growth and joy, see my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as paperback or e-book for Kindle.

Click here to download the first chapter.

From the Description on Amazon:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

Rewiring the Soul' provides a user-friendly roadmap for personal transformation. Using conversational style, it guides the reader to an understanding of life's problems and how they can be resolved, deliberately including the reader's connection to his own soul and spiritual growth. Based on common sense and the author's work as an integral psychotherapist as well as lessons gleaned from teaching and personal experiences, all interwoven with current findings from neuroscience, positive psychology, quantum physics and Buddhism, 'Rewiring the Soul' signposts the path to resolving everyday life and its problems while converging with the inner quest for connection with the soul. This process allows life to take on a revolutionary new meaning: resolving personal and interpersonal issues while keeping the inner connection to the soul in mind leads to unprecedented growth that is simply not possible if psycho-emotional matters and spiritual concerns are not combined.



Monday, November 21, 2011

Do You Vibrate to a Tune That Serves you Well ?


Recently I drove through horrendous road construction going on in my area. It was still very hot, the traffic was murderous, and due to the fact that cars were stopping and starting, the cooling system did not work as well as possible. Dust abounded. Stopped once again at yet another traffic light, I was overjoyed to see a gorgeously vibrant purple flower arising from the dirt at the side of the road, very close to my window. I actually laughed out loud when I saw it, because it seemed to exemplify a point I try to make so often: do you vibrate to a tune that serves you well?

How do you vibrate? Is it an inner vibration that only allows you to see the tedium, the dirt, the noise, the delays, and the uncomfortable heat, or is it an inner vibration that allows you to see the flowers arising from the dirt?

I remember visiting the city of Cordoba with its culturally rich mixture of Roman, Moorish, Jewish, and Spanish architecture, history, and religion in the sweltering heat one August Sunday morning, and overhearing a couple complain loudly about the lack of air conditioning as they visited one of the many sites in the Jewish quarter (la Judería). What they were vibrating to, was their physical discomfort, as opposed to seeing the immense variety of traditions and inter-mingled history this nearly 2000-year-old city has to offer. It is simply a question of perspective. What are you focusing on … what do you vibrate to?

These two examples are hugely important analogies applied to everything we do in life. The perspective that we choose to have because of our inner vibration can bring beauty to an outwardly ugly moment or ugliness to an outwardly beautiful moment. You choose. (See also Happiness: Has it Become a Science or is it a Question of Good Luck?)

But to be fair, long before you choose to focus on the purple flower at the side of the road instead of the insufferable traffic and noise, and long before you choose to focus on the lack of air conditioning in Cordoba’s Jewish quarter, you have spent years making tiny choices here and there, over and over again, that eventually led you to such a vibration.

So that is it in a nutshell: choices you make every day, all your life, bring you to this place or that, just as following a specific road on a map, can bring you to New York, or Moscow, or Santiago de Chile. But, let’s say you are well on that road towards NYC, and you realize - due to any number of circumstances – that it would be much better for you if you actually were traveling towards New Orleans, or Cape Town, or Riyadh. Then all you have to do is make minor adjustments in order that bit by bit, you would actually find yourself on the road to the new city.

Again, that’s it in a nutshell: even if the choices you have made every day of your life to this point in time have brought you to an inner vibration that does not allow you to see the magnificent purple flower raising its head above the dust, by making new choices every day from now on, you will find yourself traveling towards a whole new perspective of life.

So: how do you begin to make new choices?

People who attend my workshops, or come to my speeches, or clients, or those that write to me to make a comment about one of my articles, tell me over and over again (not in so many words, but by how they react to my answer), that they want the answer to that question about how you begin to make new choices to be a one-time deal. In other words, whatever it is they have to do, they want it to happen as a result of that one time that they do it, that one major effort that they put into it. Which reminds me of Zig Ziglar’s quote: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” (See also Consciousness is a Full-time Job).

And in the case of beginning to make new choices, you make the conscious decision to remember to do it daily. (See also Claiming Responsibility for the Self). Even if that means pasting numerous post-it notes to yourself all over your house, office, computer monitor and car. If you don’t make new a new kind of choice on a daily basis, nothing in your perspective will change. And it is your perspective that entirely colors how you see your world. And that means that it also colors how you feel at all times, how you interpret all events, and how you react to anything at all.

Here are some of the ways you can begin to make new choices:
  • When you’re at the gym … or doing any kind of other physical exercise (which in and of itself is a great choice to make) instead of thinking about problems while you are there, find five things to be grateful for at that moment in your life (see also Gratitude, Choice the ‘Why Did This Happen to Me?’ Syndrome)
  • Wherever your eyes land, whether you are inside a building, your home, or out somewhere, make a point of reminding yourself to look for something beautiful … and if necessary, because you truly can’t anything beautiful in that particular place, simply look inside and find the beauty there
  • Be present … be here and now as often as possible, as opposed to living in the past or the future (see also Entering the Now Moment By Leaving Unawareness Behind and Living in the NOW: Use it to Enrich Your Life). Here’s another secret: being present – being in the now, is the fastest way to co-creating your reality in the way you desire.
  • Be attentive to your gut feelings, to any intutive knowing that comes to you … it will generally give you more information about how you could choose to do things or react to things in a way that is good for you
  • Stop being reactive (reacting blindly to events and people), and be proactive instead (reacting to events and people after taking an inner reading about not only how you feel about this situation and what your immediate response would be, but also about how you will feel if you put that immediate response into action and whether that will be worth it, and then asking yourself what other choices of reaction you have). There are always other choices.
  • Do something at least once a day that aims at raising your inner energy and sense of well-being (see also Keeping Your Energy High).
These are merely some suggestions … there are myriad other ways you can discover to make new choices. But know this: making new choices will bring you towards a different path in your life. Furthermore, if by making those choices you intend to bring yourself to a place where you can see the glorious flowering growth amidst the dust and dirt, your life will change, your perspective about everything in your life will change, and the changes in you will bring about a vibration to a much greater tune tune that includes the word freedom in its title.



For much more about passion, meaning , purpose and significance in your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

Description: Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.




A Review From the Back Cover:

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound."

PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - www.trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself





Lucy Adams: Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run



As promised last week, today I am presenting guest blogger Lucy Adams. While the subjects Lucy and I typically write about appear to be very distant one from the other, I felt that her particular brand of humour, so important in these times of worries, stress, and negativity, was especially germane to keeping ourselves on track in the positive sense of the word.

Lucy is the author of recently released book, Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run (Palm Tree Press, 2011), in which she showcases her knack for unraveling a snippet of time, already frayed at the edges, and exposing the whole story, with all of its nuances. Using her same wit and self-deprecating humor as in her first book, If Mama Don’t Laugh, It Ain’t Funny (Palm Tree Press 2007), Adams surrenders to her reader true tales of massacred magnolias, communist pig roasts and 40 year-old bridesmaids, as well as an assemblage of many other mishaps, misjudgments and miscalculations.


A Q&A with author Lucy Adams:

What makes you passionate about writing?

I love words. I love the flow of words. I like the challenge of saying something ordinary in an unexpected way. I enjoy enabling readers to “see” the scenes as opposed to simply telling them about a character or an event. When I am writing I can actually feel my brain shift and I move into another zone. I become completely disconnected from the here and now and transported to a place where I’m not even myself anymore. It’s a crazy feeling, probably akin to the freefall craved by adrenalin junkies.

I want to take my reader with me on that surreal journey. I want her to touch, taste, hear, smell, see what I do. If I achieve eliciting a giggle, a tear, an Ah-ha, a deeper thought, a nod of the head from someone, then I’ve achieved something.

And I won’t even go into the thrill of a deadline, here, but, my gosh, I can’t live without one.

Who has made the greatest difference for you as a writer?

Now I feel like I’m on the stage at the Academy Awards trying to think of all the people I need to thank and fearing I’ve left out someone very important. So, I’m going to say, my 11th grade English teacher, Naomi Williams, who never encouraged me to go into a career in writing. When I showed her some of my material, she did not critique content. She picked apart the grammar and punctuation and would not accept my explanation for why I had used the punctuation and grammar the way I had.

Why her? Because she taught me that I had to know how to write correctly. I had to become an expert at that first. A person can write fabulous content that reads absolutely nonsensical if the grammar, punctuation, sentence structure and word usage lead the reader down the wrong path.

What is your favorite thing about being an author?

On a home tour last Christmas, a homeowner actually walked me into his bathroom to point out my book, which he keeps on the back of his commode. That’s an unforgettable moment.

I love making people laugh; making an emotional connection.

I also like the idea that something of my creation with my name on it is recorded in perpetuity in the Library of Congress. I'm a permanent, though tiny, piece of the fabric of America. It's a record of my existence and my contribution. That sounds silly and neurotic when I say it, but it’s true.

How did you get started writing?

My original plan, when I was 5, was to be an artist and live in my parents’ garage and take care of them in their old age. Despite my father nursing that ambition, I ended up being a writer and living down the road from my parents. An arrangement that pleases my mother very much, since she and my dad haven’t decided to get old yet.

My high school friends would tell you that they always knew I would be a writer. My college friends would tell you they were all surprised. My husband says I’m not the same woman he married; that it’s like my alien inside took over.

I always wanted to write. I sort of gave up on it, though, after high school, seeking to do more practical things with my education and my life. It wasn’t until I was 34, with four children ages 6 and under, and a husband who said we needed extra income, that I got up the courage to act on it.

I typed up sample columns and went to my local newspaper and asked if I could write for them. Then I called back the editor again, and again, and again, until he said, “Yes, if you’ll quit bothering me. I’ve got work to do.”

Now, in my 40’s, going a day without writing is like going a day without oxygen.

Who are your books geared towards?

Although plenty of men tell me they appreciate my humor and that they love my books, my primary audience is women. For one thing, women are busy people and often have to beg, borrow and steal snatches of time in which to read. Each story is about two pages long and a quick escape. These are the kind of books that can be read all in one sitting or put down and picked up over the course of several weeks. Women get the humor and the nuances because they’ve been in the same trenches as me.

Where can our readers go to find your books and order them?

All major on-line bookstores, like Amazon and Barnes & Noble, carry both Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run and If Mama Don’t Laugh, It Ain’t Funny. Local brick and mortar bookstores will order them upon customer request. And signed copies are available from my website: http://ifmama.com/


Strategic Errors, a podcast excerpt from Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run, is a true story in which the names and places have been changed to protect identities. Though it sounds like a fairytale, you, too, can live happily ever after in the Kingdom of Mindovermatter.
 

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

PASSION IN 3 x 3 STEPS

Defining Passion:
  1. An unending desire and commitment, along with enthusiasm, motivation and inspiration to work towards a goal
  2. Willingness to take in the suffering that such passion involves (e.g. the Passion of Christ); suffering that may entail intermittent failure, derision and even rejection from your peers, moments in which you honestly don’t know how you can possibly continue, but you do continue
  3. Recognizing that the major portion of meaning in your life is derived from this passion, despite all of the above
A. If PASSION missing:
  1. You are continually searching for ways to make yourself feel good, none of which will do the trick until you re-focus onto a passion that gives significance and meaning to your life.Therefore: recognize that the self-sabotaging ways you are using to self-soothe yourself into feeling good, need to be set aside in order to make room in your life for step 1 below.
  2. You not only do not feel good about life in general, but you specifically do not feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem and sense of self-love is low or even non-existent. This has nothing to do with your bank account. Therefore: recognize that you feel this way due to the lack of passion or meaning and significance in your life. Stop worrying about how you are feeling and make room in your life for steps 1-3 below.
  3. You are not aware of any specific purpose or significance in your life, other than the accumulation of wealth, material goods, professional or social prestige, etc.Therefore: recognize that the pursuit of any of the described goals – while temporarily allowing you to feel good about yourself – give no lasting sense of satisfaction because this type of pursuit is not hitched to a goal that allows you to have that all-important sense of purpose and significance in your life. Concentrate your conscious efforts on steps 1-3 below.
B. How to regain PASSION:
  1.  Become consciously aware of your thoughts and feelings and begin to elevate your inner energetic frequency by using beauty, gratitude and mindfulness to do so 24/7 (book). Doing this is one of the best ways to begin to listen to your own inner wisdom with regards to that which you really feel motivated to do, towards that which is really a purpose in your life and that means something to you. Without such a purpose and meaning, it will be very hard to maintain passion in your life.
  2. As an added step, consciously use motivational and inspirational audios and DVD’s (see the right sidebar of this blog) that will allow you to raise that inner energetic frequency to get yourself to a place where you can revisit your goals and if necessary, shift to a new area of interest where you can successfully re-position your passion
  3. Write down your long-term and mid-term goals. Then do the near-term ones, until you get to tomorrow. What do you have to do tomorrow to get to that goal, and consciously make yourself be aware of the fact that as you do that supposedly small and unimportant tomorrow, it will however lead you to that all-important end goal that is giving passion to your life!      
C. How to maintain PASSION:       
  1. Continually remain conscious, about yourself, your thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions, as well as about all the messages your body sends you (we have 3 brains: head, gut, heart) and you are constantly receiving messages from all them. These If you train yourself to listen to all of them, they will maintain you in passionate mode!
  2. Continually revisit your goals, readjusting the direction as necessary
  3. If setbacks occur, go back to the pointers for regaining your passion


On November 21st, I am privileged to host Lucy Adams, author of If Mama Don't Laugh, It Ain't Funny & Tuck Your Skirt in Your Panties and Run here on the blog. While at first glance it may appear that what Lucy writes about, and what I do, are worlds apart, it is, in fact, the measure of joy and laughter that we bring to our daily lives, that makes such a difference to our ability to grow and evolve. I look forward to welcoming Lucy Adams here next week! Find out more about Lucy by clicking here .

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For much more about passion, meaning , purpose and sfignificance n  your life, about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

A Review From the Back Cover:

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound."

PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - www.trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself






Photo: Amalfi Coast, Italy

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Loving Yourself: A Roadmap



Loving yourself lies at the beginning of all roads that lead you to inner peace and freedom. The underpinnings for finding balance and harmony in your life rest on you being able to love yourself. If you do not love yourself, or at least begin the process of loving yourself, most of everything else you do in the arena of personal transformation will not bring you the desired results.

But – as so much else in the personal development field – it’s easier said than done. Loving yourself is so much more than indulging in some long denied desire, or lying in a bubble bath surrounded by scented candles while relaxing music soothes your jagged edges.

Loving yourself begins first and foremost with the recognition that if you are not in a place of well-being inside yourself, it’s up to you to do something about it. That should become your priority. Imagine you are the parent of a small child. Your child is upset, or sad, or angry or frightened, You, as loving parent of the child, would attempt to help the child move to a better place inside, in the way the child is feeling at that moment due to whatever it was that happened. You might embrace the child, talk about what is going on, or do any number of things designed to help the child view the situation with new eyes in order to find some measure of inner harmony and peace about whatever has transpired.

But in order for this to happen you would need to be closely connected to your child, you would need to have strong communication with your child, and you would need to be totally aware of your child’s feelings. Furthermore, you’d need to want to be there for your child.

By now you’ve probably figured out that I’m giving you an analogy about how you need to be dealing with yourself and why: in order to show yourself that you love yourself (because that’s how it starts), you must be aware of yourself and your feelings at all times and be conscious or aware enough to choose to do something about them at all times, in order to bring yourself to an inner state of well-being.

Does that mean that you would never allow yourself to feel pain or sorrow or worry or have any other type of negative feeling? Does it mean you would keep yourself in some iron grip of control so that you would not have those feelings? Absolutely not! But it does mean that you would be willing to choose to focus elsewhere as opposed to those feelings, in order to help yourself move to a better place inside.

What would you do if you find yourself worrying about your health or money or your relationship? You would recognize that worrying takes you absolutely nowhere, you would recognize that it is much more proactive to do your due diligence about whatever it is that is going on in your life (attempt to resolve it by allowing it a certain amount of time per day – but only that amount of time - in your life, brainstorming, consulting, researching about the situation), and you would then choose to focus on something else in order to help yourself move to a better place inside, because that is what you do for those that you love. And as you begin to do that for yourself, over and over again, you begin to realize that you do love yourself.

What would you do if someone has just made you incredibly angry? Or how would you deal with someone who is playing the role of energy vampire in your life, or being emotionally unavailable with you? Remember, that part of this process has to do with you becoming aware of yourself, and taking responsibility for yourself and how you react to situations and people. See also:
So that means that if you are taking responsibility for yourself because you have become more aware of yourself, you will also have begun to accept that fact that you are ultimately responsible for everything you think, feel, say and do, as well as taking responsibility for how you react at all times, no matter what the outer circumstances. Hence, when at first glance it appears that someone else has made you angry, i.e., that it is their fault that you are angry, you begin to see that you have a choice about how you feel at that particular moment. You realize you can choose how you react. And if you consciously choose to continue to have a reasonably good day despite another person’s near effect on the state of your being, you are beginning to show yourself that you love yourself enough in order to do this.

At first glance it may appear that these suggestions are small and you may be asking if that’s all there’s to it. In effect, that is all there’s to it, but it is the continual practice of a lifetime to perfect this. If you start today, right now, this evening you will already feel better about how you are dealing with yourself. You’ll recognize that you’ve taken some steps to love yourself. And a part of you will feel just as loved as the child who has been enveloped in the loving arms of a caring and emotionally generous adult parent. This will bring you ever closer to inner peace and freedom, and this will bring you joy.



For much more about living consciously, about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

Reviews From the Back Cover:

A revelation of insight into the foundations of human suffering & transcendence. It not only lays out essential steps for inner freedom & joy but illuminates the way to true human potential. Dr. Kortsch is a spiritual master for our time. Paul Rademacher, Executive Director, The Monroe Institute; author: A Spiritual Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe

"The masterwork of a profoundly gifted healer of the soul. Dazzling, challenging, wondrously useful." Peggy Rubin, Director, Center for Sacred Theatre, Ashland, Oregon; author: To Be and How To Be, Transforming Your Life Through Sacred Theatre

"The instruction manual on rewiring the soul. An in-depth guide on life, love, spiritual evolution & our integration within the universe." Michael Habernig & April Hannah; Producers: The Path- The Afterlife & The Path 11 Documentaries

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world & practical. The implications are profound." Peter Shepherd; Founder Trans4mind.com; author: Daring To Be Yourself

"The human being's directory to the soul. A breakthrough for those seeking practical assistance, those of a more mystical bent & every soul awaiting discovery." Toni Petrinovich, Ph.D.; author: The Call: Awakening the Angelic Human

Monday, October 31, 2011

We Are All One


Over the past 10 days or so I've had the good fortune to be swamped with a number of pieces of information that all converged in one main statement, which is the title of today's piece: We Are All One. They were, in no particular order:
  • the movie Oranges and Sunshine about the thousands of children who were illegally deported to Australia and other parts of the Commonwealth from the UK in the 50's, 60's and 70's. In many instances they were told their parents had died when they had not, and when, years later they attempted to find their roots back in the UK, they were stymied, until a very courageous social worker margaret Humphries - and this is what the movie is mainly about - discovers the entire malodorous situation and attempts to remedy the plight of these seemingly rootless adults.
  • the TED talk by author Isabel Allende titled Tales of Passion in which she discusses gender inequality and the plight of poor and uneducated women across the globe.
  • the BBC documentary Spain's Stolen Children, the DW-TV report, and the report by Journeyman TV about the same subject, in which the unspeakable story of thousands of children who were literally stolen from their parents at birth in Spain during the 60's, 70's and 80's by telling them that the child had died, and then 'selling' said child to adoptive parents, as well as other, earlier tales, of children who were taken from their parents for ideological reasons during the Franco régime and also given to adoptive parents.
  • the CNN documentary Not My Life, narrated by Glenn Close, about human trafficking and slavery, in particular about those most hit by it: poor, uneducated women and children, but not only in third-world countries, but documented in North America and Europe as well
  • the work of Somaly Mam, the Cambodian anti-sex trafficking campaigner and founder of AFESIP, rescuing women from brothels, of whom I heard in the Allende talk listed here. Her book The Road of Lost Innocence: The True Story of a Cambodian Heroine tells the stroy of her life
  • the movie The Fever with Vanessa Redgrave (and a cameo by Angelina Jolie) about a bourgeois woman who - quite late in life - comes to recognize the blithe blindness of her way of living, as she visits an Eastern block country
  • the HBO documentary about Gloria Steinem's life: Gloria - In Her Own Words, which portrays, as you can imagine, much of the second chapter of the women's movement, equal rights, abortion, etc.
  • the movie Red Dust with Hilary Swank about the Truth and Reconciliation Commission in South Africa after the collapse of the apartheid régime, that tells the story of human pain and suffering, and ultimately the possibility of overcoming it by the power of forgiving
  • and finally, the Occupy Wall Street movement that is now - as most of us know - not restricted to the USA, but totally global (this was not one of the items that only came to me in the last 10 days, but has coincided - in its spectacular world-wide growth - with all the other items on this list)
As all these pieces came into my life - serendipitously (with the exception of the last one) - with all their horror, pain, tragedy, outrage and suffering, I had to ask myself: what can I do? And then I read a quotation from the Buddha that I have read many times before:

"If there is light in the soul, there is beauty in the person. If there is beauty in the person,
there will be harmony in the house. If there is harmony in the house,
there will be order in the nation. If there is order in the nation,
there will be peace in the world."

It's really quite simple, isn't it? We all have to find our inner light and let it shine.

So I decided to start the weekly Live Your Best Life * support group. If you click on the link, you'll be able to read about it. Finding our inner light and letting it shine is what each of us can do to make the world a better place. It HAS to start with each one of us, it can't be any other way. You can do this. I can do it. We can all do it. And the more that do, the more the world will change.


* The name of the group must have been hibernating in my subconscious mind, as I now realize it is the same name Oprah gave to something ... sorry! :-) 


For much more about finding your inner light, about the fact that we are all one (the book has an entire chapter dedicated to this subject), about being aware of your thoughts and feelings, how you react to others and how you love yourself, as well as about choosing to seek your inner well-being above all, in order that you may have a ripple effect on all those who come in contact with you, get my book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, available at Amazon as a paperback or e-book for Kindle and all Kindle applications. Click here to download the first chapter.

Description of the Book:

Ask anyone, whatever their circumstances, if their life is vibrant, fulfilling, harmonious and happy. An honest reply is likely to be 'no', because to answer a truthful 'yes' is no mean feat. Only to grow psychologically and emotionally is not enough. And only to grow spiritually is not enough either. All three dimensions need to be developed in order to realize your full potential. If you are willing to assume total responsibility for the self and to start what is an on-going journey, you will quickly begin to glimpse the first fruits of the ultimate goal: inner well-being, freedom, peace, harmony and joy. This book sets out the pathway to self-mastery and self-discovery and walking that pathway will be the most exciting adventure of your life.

A Review From the Back Cover:

"Rewiring the Soul is one the best introductions to the spiritual life I've ever read. Not esoteric but real-world and practical. Read it and Soul is no longer just a dogma, nor hypothesis, it is made real and as much a part of your being as your toes. We usually shut off our inner voice, yet by recognizing this aspect of ourselves we begin to discover our essential nature, our intuitive truth, and that becomes our loving guide. The author illustrates the limitations of living only as the mind's Ego, and demonstrates in practical terms how we can transcend this by awakening a conscious viewpoint, following the path of our intuition and feelings, no longer separated from our body and the reality around us, and integrating at last our Soul's inner guidance and wellspring of love. The implications are profound." PETER SHEPHERD; Founder Trans4mind - www.trans4mind.com; author, Daring To Be Yourself