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Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Coming of Age Emotionally


Emotional maturity has little to do with chronological maturity. It may come before you become an adult, or you may have been an adult for decades, and still not have attained any kind of emotional maturity.

"In our emotional lives we tend to attract to us - and have relationships with – people who have attained (or stagnated at) the same level of emotional maturity as we have." That quote is from my latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin)

What that quote implies is very important. You might have a relationship with someone who is very sophisticated in all manner of mundane ways, and who is, nevertheless, emotionally immature. You may have noticed this. You may think to yourself: how can he/she be so childish (in that emotional sense), and yet so worldly and intelligent in all those other ways?

You - or anyone else - didn't necessarily grow up in a "balanced" way on all different levels. So you might have an advanced degree from an institution of higher learning, or you might be a whiz on Wall Street and be pulling in millions, or you might be a genius in quantum physics, or you might be an amazing ballerina or concert pianist who has fought tirelessly to reach that degree of perfection, or you might be the person who invented a late-gen chip that beats all other chips for data storage, or you might be the world's number one tennis player, or that actress who won so many awards. The point is, you may have developed on many levels to an ultra-high degree, but your emotional growth and development - in a word, your emotional maturity - may have not kept pace with the rest.

Why this happens is easily understandable, and here are just a few of the reasons: 
  • We are generally raised by parents who themselves lacked emotional maturity - not because they were immature in everything, but because they, in turn, were raised by their emotionally immature parents - and what we don't see - in our parents or caretakers - as we are growing up, is that much harder to acquire. In other words, they (and we) lacked the appropriate role models in this regard.
  • As a corollary of the above point, due to their emotional immaturity, our parents frequently saddle us with emotional situations or events that cause us to internalize something subconsciously that hurts, and on that same visceral level we interpret it as danger, and that is the place where our defense mechanisms begin to raise their toxic heads (which are the reasons why psychotherapists such as myself exist).
  • Our society doesn't exactly honor the 'inner' quest; hence self-reflection is becoming a lost art and therefore the above two points, while perhaps vaguely there in our understanding, are not consciously taken into account and then worked on, honed, and refined in our desire to grow up in that way - emotionally - that may so very much - and so very long - hinder and hamper our lives.
  • Therefore awareness and being conscious of the self are not generally qualities we pick up at home or school ... not even at church.
  • Finally, due to all of the above, we also do not tend to have role models while we are growing up, that teach us how to love ourselves, and that hinders coming of age emotionally in crucial ways. 
So back to the quote at the beginning of this post: In our emotional lives we tend to attract to us - and have relationships with – people who have attained (or stagnated at) the same level of emotional maturity as we have.

Due to the lack of development in the emotional part of your psyche, and due to the reasons it is like that (as I have briefly illustrated in this post), wherever you are at emotionally - let's equate it to grade 5 at school - you will (ideally) need to grow in order to progress. How do children in grade 5 tend to learn? They go to class with others at the grade 5 level. And so we attract to us and have relationships with people who have attained the same level of emotional maturity as we have. At that level there will - eventually, after the first glow has worn off - be friction. You may blame it on your partner. But once you are aware enough that you are part of this dance, and start to take responsibility for yourself and all you think, feel, say, and do, is when you start to change and grow. If you are lucky, your partner will do the same, and by growing together, your relationship has high possibilities for prospering. If your partner is not interested in growth, or prefers to remain at the status quo, you might have to look elsewhere for another individual who is - now - at this new level you have attained in your emotional maturity (we might call it grade 6). And of course it could be the other way around: that it is your partner who has taken steps to growth, and that it is you who wish to remain in your comfort zone.

Either way, change will come. Where are you at, on that continuum of coming of age emotionally? 

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Friday, September 29, 2017

Dream Analysis Group & Astrological Life Cycles Group


Dream Analysis Group 

Astrological Life Cycles Group 


Starting October 5th, the following group evenings will begin on alternate Thursdays:

Dream Analysis Group Evening 

We will meet every second Thursday (see schedule below) from 19:30 – 21:30 in order to better understand your dreams, as well as in order to remember more of your dreams.

“A dream that has not been interpreted is like a letter that has not been read.” TALMUD

In every meeting an introduction to a specific type of dream symbol will be given and then each member (time permitting) will have the opportunity to share a dream which we will analyze as a group. This offers not only insight into yourself, but also broadens your understanding of your progress through life. € 15 per meeting


Oct. 5                    Brief Intro and Pregnancy & Birth in Dreams
Oct. 19                  Death
Nov. 2                   The Snake
Nov. 16                 The Butterfly
Nov. 30                 Flying & Falling

2018

Jan 11                    The House Part 1
Jan 25                    The House Part 2: The Kitchen
Feb. 8                    The House Part 3: The Bathroom
Feb. 22                   The House Part 4: The Bedroom
March 8                  The House Part 5: The Cellar
March 22                The Spider
April 5                    Sex
April 19                  Exams
May 3                     Murder
May 17                   Marriage
May 31                   Dreams of Being Chased
June 14                   Water, Swimming & Drowning
June 28                   Types of Dreams: Paralysis Dreams
July 12                    Types of Dreams: Lucid Dreams & the Senoi

The group will continue in September


Astrological Life Cycles Group Evening:  

This group will meet from 19:30 – 21:30 every second Thursday (alternating with the Dream Analysis Group) starting on October 12th.

A crisis is a turning point--that which precedes change. Alexander Ruperti

Humanistic astrology could be likened to the psychology of astrology. Here we will discuss life cycles that astrology offers us in order to better understand our lives. We’ll also discuss connections between planets in the chart and how this symbolizes part of our character and life challenges. Through the lens of both the cycles and the connections, this group aims at helping you see your own development & evolution. 

Cycles and connections in every participant’s chart will be analyzed throughout the weeks of this group, although it will be done anonymously. I will need your time, day, month, year, city, and country of birth. YOU will know who you are by an ID I’ll assign, but no one will know the others’ IDs. If you don’t have your birth time, put 12 noon, although it will mean that we won’t be able to fully analyze the astrological angles (ASC, IC, DESC, & MH), nor the Moon. € 20 per meeting

Oct. 12                  Looking at Saturn
Oct. 26                  Looking at Uranus
Nov. 9                   Looking at Neptune
Nov. 23                 Looking at Pluto
Dec. 7                   Looking at Chiron

2018

Jan. 18                  Saturn’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
Feb. 1                   Uranus’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
Feb. 15                 Neptune’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
March 1                Pluto’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
March 15              Chiron’s connection to the personal planets in your natal chart
March 29              Saturn’s cycles (1)
April 12                Saturn’s cycles (2)
April 26                Saturn’s cycles (3)
May 10                 Saturn’s cycles (4)
May 24                 Chiron’s cycles (1)
June 7                   Uranus’ cycles
June 21                 Neptune’s cycles
July 5                    Pluto’s cycles


The group will repeat in September

If you wish to participate in either or both of these groups, 
please email me at the following address: 
gkortsch at gmail dot com 
in order that I may include you in the database of people 
who will be notified of each meeting several days prior to it. 
You will need to RSVP your attendance

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

The Importance of Being You



Funny question. How important is it to be you?

And I've mentioned this topic before in these posts:
But it is such an important topic that I can't help but bring it up again. And anyway, just as in marketing, where a message needs to be seen an average of NINE times before the potential consumer will react to it, so also in topics that refer to our inner self, it may be possible that we need to see the message many times before we react and do something about it.

Being you is a frightening concept to many people. They may define themselves by their professional situation, their academic prestige, their social position or family background, their finances and material well-being, their political party or religious convictions, they may define themselves by the people they know, the places they frequent, they may even define themselves by their looks and their physical attributes.

While all of the above is in fact, part of who we are, it does not necessarily define us. If a man is given professional recognition as a lawyer and is part of a conservative party due to his family's leaning over generations, and it is expected that he follow that political line, we might say that he is living an authentic life if we don't scratch beneath the surface. What if this man is gay? How much of his mode of living can be true to himself if he needs to hide or is afraid to show that most important aspect of his being? Or what if he is a closet liberal, politically speaking? What if he is a lawyer because it was expected, or because it would give him a good income, but at heart he wanted to write or paint? Or be a travel journalist?

You clearly see what I am driving at. Not being you implies potential tragedy. Not being you implies a life half lived. Not being you may erode your health...physiological, psychological or spiritual.

There is another important facet to not being you. Many of us simply don't know who we are. Not necessarily our fault, you know. Schools teach us so much: reading, writing, mathematics, history, geography, etc., but when are we ever taught about ourselves, and how important it is to get to know ourselves...this person with whom we will live all our lives? When are we shown the importance of taking the journey within?

This is a topic I will explore at greater length in future because we tend to gloss over it - not because we are necessarily shallow materialists, but because it is not emphasized to the degree that it could be done, if we as a society placed as much importance on the inner quest as on the outer search for excellence.      



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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Monday, September 4, 2017

How Often Do Praise & Laughter Come Your Way?



You may have friends with whom you enjoy hearty belly laughs. Or you may have lovely people in your life who praise you often. But perhaps you don't. Or perhaps the above happens, but not as frequently as you might like. Consider being the source of it yourself. You can be the source of your own laughter and praise.

Regarding laughter, you may - at least initially - need outside inspiration, such as video clips (plenty of funny ones - even for people like myself whose 'funny bone' is a bit strange - on YouTube), or films you may already have in your library that caused you to laugh long and hard when you saw them the first time, or simply do a search on YouTube for brief two to four-minute video clips teaching laugh therapy. (In case you are not aware of it, laugh therapy can reduce stress, as well as improve the quality of your life. Laughing has physical effects because it is able to stimulate the circulatory and immune systems of your body).

However, I find that laughing at myself (in loving ways) is sometimes the funniest of all. Perhaps it happens when I am with others, or it might happen when I am totally alone and realize what I'm doing (don't ask), or when I relate something about myself to others that was not so funny when it occurred, and yet, in hindsight, is hilarious - and the joke is on me! If you have a habit of doing this, you will know that it brightens up your day ... so start now.

Praising yourself is another one of those things so many of us tend not to do. Starting with our cultural bias that taught us since we were very young that praising the self is boastful, egotistical, sinful, etc., many people feel absolutely uncomfortable doing it, and believe that this discomfort underlines the truth of the fact that praising the self is not good. That then becomes a vicious circle, and they simply never get in the habit of doing it. But the truth is (one simple place to look this up is in research put out by proponents of positive psychology) that praising yourself is good for you.

Did you have to fight a bit with yourself this morning to get to they gym, or jogging trail? But you did it anyway? How about not giving in to the temptation to have that luscious looking croissant and eating something healthier instead? What about when you caught yourself in the habit of criticizing others and stopped mid-track in order to not continue? Aren't those all praise-worthy? Is there anything wrong with praising yourself for doing that? If so please comment below, or email me!

Laughing about yourself, praising yourself, and loving yourself are all ways to care for yourself. Would you not laugh with a small child to see it happy? Would you not praise it for its tiniest progress? And would you not show it you love it at all times? So treat yourself the same way.

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**************************************************

See the preview (click below) to my online on-demand video course  




  NOW available

"Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin"


  *****************************

Si hablas español:


Una charla reciente en Málaga:


Se grabó y se puede ver en YouTube aquí:

 


Una charla reciente en Marbella:


Se grabó y se puede ver en YouTube aquí:



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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
DEINE SEELE UND DU
  

Angefangen mit Rewiring the Soul - auf Deutsch: Deine Seele und Du, jetzt weltweit erhältlich als Taschenbuch oder Kindle E-Book (Blog hier), werden auch meine anderen Bücher in Zukunft auf Deutsch bei Amazon erhältlich sein.

Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram