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Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Choose Love - Not Fear


What prevails in your life? Is it love? Or is it fear? If love is stronger you will know it immediately because in general, your life holds a measure of well-being and peace that - should your life be ruled by fear - you will not be tremendously well acquainted with.

Being ruled by fear necessitates a negative charge to daily life. It means - in simple terms - that you are not confident that you will be fine no matter what occurs. In other words, you are fearful of some things happening, essentially because you believe - you fear - that if they happen, you will suffer. Exactly what those events are that you fear may vary from person to person to such a degree that what John fears most is something that Simon does not fear at all, and yet what Simon fears, is something that John considers a simple challenge that can easily be surmounted. Living a life where at some point - most likely some subconscious point - you chose fear over love does not mean that you are a coward or a wimp. This is not about courage. It is about understanding some elementary aspects about the goodness of life and about believing in the self the way one does when one has established a relationship with the self. And you only ever do that if you have begun the process of loving the self.

The fact of the matter is that those things that we fear - as long as we continue to fear - can never be fully enumerated, because we have no way of knowing what we may have to face at the next turn of the road. Fear - in this sense - implies wishing to control that which we may encounter, and as said, it is never possible to control everything that we might encounter, because we simply don't know what we will encounter at any given time.

At this point the choice for love and trust in the self may - if we are conscious enough - enter the equation.

Love has to do with confidence, with caring for the self and with knowing that because you care for the self, you are able to handle things as they arise in your life - even when those things  are difficult or painful. More than anything, above all, and in the very first instance, choosing love has to do with loving the self and because of this love having the firm inner conviction that you can deal with any of the cards that life throws you. That does not mean, by the way, that you will always win or always be successful, or always get what you want. It simply means that no matter what happens, you will be able to deal with it in such a way that your inner well being remains on an even keel. Even if you are Nelson Mandela and spending 27 years locked up in Robben Island, and even if you are Victor Frankl imprisoned in Auschwitz, or even if you are Aimée Mullens and had both legs amputated when you were five.

This inner conviction does not come about just in an instance. Let's say you have lived your life driven by fear to this point. You've attempted - often unsuccessfully - to exert a measure of control over those outer circumstances that threaten to throw your well-being off center. You are ruled - to a degree - by the subliminal fear or knowledge that you are not able to control your life, and hence you don't know how you will be if something bad happens. You don´t know if you will be able to deal with, or even bear the circumstances - whatever they may be. This creates – if not outright fear, since fear is such a strong emotion – at least a continual sensation of discomfort in your skin, so to speak. Something about you, concerning your life and the way you live does not feel at ease.

The process of moving from a fear-ruled life in the sense described above to a love-ruled life always begins with the recognition of the need to learn how to love the self. By loving the self, fear gradually begins to dissipate because the individual whose life is ruled by love and who has chosen love as the primary benchmark for how he lives his life, is an individual for whom fear – of dis-ease - no longer looms large as it does for the person who has not yet made such choices.

Let me leave you with several thoughts:
  • Choosing love over fear signifies that you view your life from the vantage point of goodness, love, strength and hope, as well as peace, love and harmony, as opposed to fear, competition, one-up-man-ship, and the need to prove that something about you, your life or what you do is more right than that of another individual.
  • Choosing love over fear means every situation always brings you to a win-win end result.
  • Choosing love over fear as a modus operandi for your life; a way to live your life will literally change everything for you.
  • Choosing love over fear will also change the effect you have on all those whose lives you touch and so YOU will actively - and most literally - contribute to change our world.
Choose love. Choose it for you, your loved ones, your neighbourhood, your community, your nation and your world. We are all in this together and we can all contribute to making this change. All it takes is all of us choosing love over fear. Remember that we are all one and that what affects one of us, affects us all.


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Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Coming of Age Emotionally


Emotional maturity has little to do with chronological maturity. It may come before you become an adult, or you may have been an adult for decades, and still not have attained any kind of emotional maturity.

"In our emotional lives we tend to attract to us - and have relationships with – people who have attained (or stagnated at) the same level of emotional maturity as we have." That quote is from my latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin)

What that quote implies is very important. You might have a relationship with someone who is very sophisticated in all manner of mundane ways, and who is, nevertheless, emotionally immature. You may have noticed this. You may think to yourself: how can he/she be so childish (in that emotional sense), and yet so worldly and intelligent in all those other ways?

You - or anyone else - didn't necessarily grow up in a "balanced" way on all different levels. So you might have an advanced degree from an institution of higher learning, or you might be a whiz on Wall Street and be pulling in millions, or you might be a genius in quantum physics, or you might be an amazing ballerina or concert pianist who has fought tirelessly to reach that degree of perfection, or you might be the person who invented a late-gen chip that beats all other chips for data storage, or you might be the world's number one tennis player, or that actress who won so many awards. The point is, you may have developed on many levels to an ultra-high degree, but your emotional growth and development - in a word, your emotional maturity - may have not kept pace with the rest.

Why this happens is easily understandable, and here are just a few of the reasons: 
  • We are generally raised by parents who themselves lacked emotional maturity - not because they were immature in everything, but because they, in turn, were raised by their emotionally immature parents - and what we don't see - in our parents or caretakers - as we are growing up, is that much harder to acquire. In other words, they (and we) lacked the appropriate role models in this regard.
  • As a corollary of the above point, due to their emotional immaturity, our parents frequently saddle us with emotional situations or events that cause us to internalize something subconsciously that hurts, and on that same visceral level we interpret it as danger, and that is the place where our defense mechanisms begin to raise their toxic heads (which are the reasons why psychotherapists such as myself exist).
  • Our society doesn't exactly honor the 'inner' quest; hence self-reflection is becoming a lost art and therefore the above two points, while perhaps vaguely there in our understanding, are not consciously taken into account and then worked on, honed, and refined in our desire to grow up in that way - emotionally - that may so very much - and so very long - hinder and hamper our lives.
  • Therefore awareness and being conscious of the self are not generally qualities we pick up at home or school ... not even at church.
  • Finally, due to all of the above, we also do not tend to have role models while we are growing up, that teach us how to love ourselves, and that hinders coming of age emotionally in crucial ways. 
So back to the quote at the beginning of this post: In our emotional lives we tend to attract to us - and have relationships with – people who have attained (or stagnated at) the same level of emotional maturity as we have.

Due to the lack of development in the emotional part of your psyche, and due to the reasons it is like that (as I have briefly illustrated in this post), wherever you are at emotionally - let's equate it to grade 5 at school - you will (ideally) need to grow in order to progress. How do children in grade 5 tend to learn? They go to class with others at the grade 5 level. And so we attract to us and have relationships with people who have attained the same level of emotional maturity as we have. At that level there will - eventually, after the first glow has worn off - be friction. You may blame it on your partner. But once you are aware enough that you are part of this dance, and start to take responsibility for yourself and all you think, feel, say, and do, is when you start to change and grow. If you are lucky, your partner will do the same, and by growing together, your relationship has high possibilities for prospering. If your partner is not interested in growth, or prefers to remain at the status quo, you might have to look elsewhere for another individual who is - now - at this new level you have attained in your emotional maturity (we might call it grade 6). And of course it could be the other way around: that it is your partner who has taken steps to growth, and that it is you who wish to remain in your comfort zone.

Either way, change will come. Where are you at, on that continuum of coming of age emotionally? 

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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Friday, September 29, 2017

Dream Analysis Group & Astrological Life Cycles Group


Dream Analysis Group 

Astrological Life Cycles Group 


Starting October 5th, the following group evenings will begin on alternate Thursdays:

Dream Analysis Group Evening 

We will meet every second Thursday (see schedule below) from 19:30 – 21:30 in order to better understand your dreams, as well as in order to remember more of your dreams.

“A dream that has not been interpreted is like a letter that has not been read.” TALMUD

In every meeting an introduction to a specific type of dream symbol will be given and then each member (time permitting) will have the opportunity to share a dream which we will analyze as a group. This offers not only insight into yourself, but also broadens your understanding of your progress through life. € 15 per meeting


Oct. 5                    Brief Intro and Pregnancy & Birth in Dreams
Oct. 19                  Death
Nov. 2                   The Snake
Nov. 16                 The Butterfly
Nov. 30                 Flying & Falling

2018

Jan 11                    The House Part 1
Jan 25                    The House Part 2: The Kitchen
Feb. 8                    The House Part 3: The Bathroom
Feb. 22                   The House Part 4: The Bedroom
March 8                  The House Part 5: The Cellar
March 22                The Spider
April 5                    Sex
April 19                  Exams
May 3                     Murder
May 17                   Marriage
May 31                   Dreams of Being Chased
June 14                   Water, Swimming & Drowning
June 28                   Types of Dreams: Paralysis Dreams
July 12                    Types of Dreams: Lucid Dreams & the Senoi

The group will continue in September


Astrological Life Cycles Group Evening:  

This group will meet from 19:30 – 21:30 every second Thursday (alternating with the Dream Analysis Group) starting on October 12th.

A crisis is a turning point--that which precedes change. Alexander Ruperti

Humanistic astrology could be likened to the psychology of astrology. Here we will discuss life cycles that astrology offers us in order to better understand our lives. We’ll also discuss connections between planets in the chart and how this symbolizes part of our character and life challenges. Through the lens of both the cycles and the connections, this group aims at helping you see your own development & evolution. 

Cycles and connections in every participant’s chart will be analyzed throughout the weeks of this group, although it will be done anonymously. I will need your time, day, month, year, city, and country of birth. YOU will know who you are by an ID I’ll assign, but no one will know the others’ IDs. If you don’t have your birth time, put 12 noon, although it will mean that we won’t be able to fully analyze the astrological angles (ASC, IC, DESC, & MH), nor the Moon. € 20 per meeting

Oct. 12                  Looking at Saturn
Oct. 26                  Looking at Uranus
Nov. 9                   Looking at Neptune
Nov. 23                 Looking at Pluto
Dec. 7                   Looking at Chiron

2018

Jan. 18                  Saturn’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
Feb. 1                   Uranus’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
Feb. 15                 Neptune’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
March 1                Pluto’s connections to the personal planets in your natal chart
March 15              Chiron’s connection to the personal planets in your natal chart
March 29              Saturn’s cycles (1)
April 12                Saturn’s cycles (2)
April 26                Saturn’s cycles (3)
May 10                 Saturn’s cycles (4)
May 24                 Chiron’s cycles (1)
June 7                   Uranus’ cycles
June 21                 Neptune’s cycles
July 5                    Pluto’s cycles


The group will repeat in September

If you wish to participate in either or both of these groups, 
please email me at the following address: 
gkortsch at gmail dot com 
in order that I may include you in the database of people 
who will be notified of each meeting several days prior to it. 
You will need to RSVP your attendance

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

The Importance of Being You



Funny question. How important is it to be you?

And I've mentioned this topic before in these posts:
But it is such an important topic that I can't help but bring it up again. And anyway, just as in marketing, where a message needs to be seen an average of NINE times before the potential consumer will react to it, so also in topics that refer to our inner self, it may be possible that we need to see the message many times before we react and do something about it.

Being you is a frightening concept to many people. They may define themselves by their professional situation, their academic prestige, their social position or family background, their finances and material well-being, their political party or religious convictions, they may define themselves by the people they know, the places they frequent, they may even define themselves by their looks and their physical attributes.

While all of the above is in fact, part of who we are, it does not necessarily define us. If a man is given professional recognition as a lawyer and is part of a conservative party due to his family's leaning over generations, and it is expected that he follow that political line, we might say that he is living an authentic life if we don't scratch beneath the surface. What if this man is gay? How much of his mode of living can be true to himself if he needs to hide or is afraid to show that most important aspect of his being? Or what if he is a closet liberal, politically speaking? What if he is a lawyer because it was expected, or because it would give him a good income, but at heart he wanted to write or paint? Or be a travel journalist?

You clearly see what I am driving at. Not being you implies potential tragedy. Not being you implies a life half lived. Not being you may erode your health...physiological, psychological or spiritual.

There is another important facet to not being you. Many of us simply don't know who we are. Not necessarily our fault, you know. Schools teach us so much: reading, writing, mathematics, history, geography, etc., but when are we ever taught about ourselves, and how important it is to get to know ourselves...this person with whom we will live all our lives? When are we shown the importance of taking the journey within?

This is a topic I will explore at greater length in future because we tend to gloss over it - not because we are necessarily shallow materialists, but because it is not emphasized to the degree that it could be done, if we as a society placed as much importance on the inner quest as on the outer search for excellence.      



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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


Bücher von Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Deutsch) ... JETZT bei Amazon (Taschenbuch oder E-Book) erhältlich 
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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: Also see my other other blog The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram