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Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Can You Remove Your Blinders?


Do you read magazines (online or print)? Do you watch television? Do you look at billboards? Are you on one or more social media sites? My guess is that almost everyone does at least one of these. It's rather obvious. But how much are you discerning that this is in fact, manipulating you, and more importantly, how much of it are you actually looking at with a measure of critical reasoning in order to determine what it is doing to you? The answer to that question may well determine your state of inner well-being.

FOMO (fear of missing out) is a term that sprang to life some years ago with regard to people's feelings as they 'watched' their FB friends' lives unfold (in apparently beguiling fashion) in front of their eyes on their monitors. FOMO has even garnered support groups for those who have become depressed due to the apparently more 'fun' or glamorous or popular lifestyles of those online friends. We may laugh. How silly, we may think.

How about this: you watch that reality TV show and feel worse afterwards because you have not yet managed to buy such a mansion, or have such a body, or carve out such a lucrative, celebrity life-style for yourself. We may laugh. How silly, we may think.

What about those glossy magazines or tabloid newspapers (sometimes even disguised as serious press with their occasional articles about subjects not pertaining to gossip) you look at? Those amazing ads with those amazingly young people in them with their amazing looks and amazing clothes, all telling you that if only you buy that cream, or this perfume, or that article of clothing, or that suitcase, or handbag, or briefcase, you will also - just like those people laid out so seductively on the photo spread - live such a lifestyle. We may laugh. How silly, we may think.

And yet, I wager that most of us have been there and felt that. Our culture, our mass media, our very way of living wraps sticky tentacles of desire around us. We may have sprung back very quickly, realizing what it does to us, and decided not to go down that road, or it may have taken us longer to recognize the dangers and eventually remove the blinders, or we may have found ourselves deep in that hole of comparison, desire, envy, depression, feeling bad about ourselves, or desperate yearning for something that we don't know how to fulfill.

Understand that what speaks to your mundane or outer self will rarely give you the satisfaction and joy that something different, that speaks to your eternal or inner self is capable of doing. The place where you will find inner well-being, peace, happiness, harmony, and freedom, will almost never come from that which is out there, with empty promises of being or having more than others. Remove those blinders and start looking inside yourself for all that so far you have deluded yourself into believing you can find out there.

A marvelous quote by the Dalai Lama that refers to this says: Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace. He also said: True happiness comes from having a sense of inner peace and contentment, which in turn must be achieved by cultivating altruism, love and compassion, and by eliminating anger, selfishness and greed.

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Thursday, May 18, 2017

Nurturing Greater Thoughts



Do you remember learning how to read at school? While each country will have followed different precepts, in my case a lot of it had to do with 'See Jane run'; 'See Jane's dog run'; and 'See Jane and Tom run'. I was devastated by the utter boredom of the thoughts implied in this learning how to read process.

Fast forward a few years. Obviously I had been reading many more exciting books: adventure, fairy tales, historical novels, but one fine day I stumbled across The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, and as you can imagine, I was awe-struck. The thoughts that swirled through my head thanks to ideas propagated on each page of this amazing book, were infinite, as they occupy me still, albeit on other levels now than then.

But here is the point: the 'see Jane run' type of thought kept readers on a given level. A wardrobe with a hidden door that led to magical kingdoms led readers to a very different level indeed. And in our lives it's quite a bit of the same. How much of your time do you spend mulling over mundane thoughts that keep you at a very basic energetic level? 

Routine forms part of all our lives, but just to offer a couple of examples of ways to walk through that proverbial hidden door and enter the magic kingdom: driving in your car, going over, in your mind, what you need to do today. You've actually already got it all down, you made a list, no real need to go over it all again. SO instead: listen to some TED-type seminars that really turn you on and make you enter new worlds because of the material that is being offered - all you have to do is get the podcasts into your system, or download them for MP3 listening in your car. Likewise seminars from any number of speakers and thinkers that have the capacity to transport you from your mundane thoughts to a world filled - in some fashion - with magic. And of course, this affects your energetic frequency and vibration. How could it not?

You're not in your car? Perhaps you're shaving, putting on your make-up, cooking, puttering, waiting in traffic, waiting in line at a bureaucratic institution that exists merely to let the rest of us mortals know that our time is no longer ours, or perhaps you're waiting at a doctor's office, at the bank, on hold with one of those corporations that - just like the bureaucracies - believes that its mission in life is to make us realize our time is no longer our own. In all of these instances, if you have come prepared with some material of the type I've recommended here, you can not only use your time to remove yourself from the mundane nightmare (Sartre might have termed it a Huis Clos) those situations sometimes subject us to, but literally transport yourself to another plane, another level of being thanks to the thoughts those talks and seminars are exposing you to.

It was Benjamin Disraeli who said: Nurture great thoughts, for you will never go higher than your thoughts, and it is so very true that this is a matter that lies in your hands and in your head, and how you choose the level of thoughts on which you keep yourself.

Note: TED seminars as well as seminars by a varied number of speakers can be accessed on my left sidebar under links, especially the links with an asterix. Or go directly to the TED site, or even to YouTube and search for people that inspire you

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Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Greeting the Unknown



Leaving the familiar behind is not something all of us do easily. It may create stress, worry, and fear, and therefore many people do their best to avoid it. Yet it is at the threshold of the unknown that growth, expansion, and adventure may take place.

How else was the New World discovered, how else did the first moon landing take place? How else were so many of the objects we take for granted invented? The submarine, the airplane, the microscope, and the printing press, not to mention digital technology in all its wonders that lead us to even more 'magical' discoveries!

I am also reminded of a 2008 movie I've enjoyed so much that over the years I've seen it several times. It relates the true story of a journalist out to get a coveted scoop, yet who winds up on some strange by-ways due to the vagaries of his situation, and is then faced with the unknown which he not only fears, but which - in modern terms - freaks him out. Nevertheless, he takes on the challenge, never realizing the riches that will come to him thanks to it. The title of that film is The Children of Huang Shi.

And on a very personal level, when you leave a familiar job routine to take on a promotion with greater responsibilities, even if you remain within the same firm, or when you leave a comfortable job to take on a new one, even if it's in the same city, but with new colleagues, new systems, and many other unknown factors, or when you start a new relationship, when you have a child, when you move to a new city or country, when you start some inner work on yourself (whether in therapy or otherwise), when you start a degree at university, or even simply when you dare to change your appearance in ways that are apparent to others, and hence expose you to comments (good or bad), you are taking a step into the unknown.

How do you greet it? Do you look forward to meeting all the unknown elements of this new sector of your life, in the knowledge that this will change you in ways you are not yet familiar with, and that in that changing, you will not only grow, but also become more of what you can be? Do you allow yourself to see the miraculous in that possibility? Do you actively look for change of this type?

If the answer is a lukewarm yes or a maybe, or perhaps even a downright no, then please remember what I wrote above: it is at the threshold of the unknown that growth, expansion, and adventure take place. Crossing thresholds always implies risks, but frequently also fear. Allow yourself to greet the trepidation, worry, or fear as a friend that has the potential to bring you to new places, and such potential is worth gold. Saying hello to the unknown is frequently akin to greeting a stranger who will somehow show you riches beyond belief.

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Also visit my book website: www.gabriellakortsch.com where you may download excerpts or read quotations from any of my books (also in Spanish & German). My latest book Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin is available globally on Amazon in print & Kindle. You can also obtain it (or any of my other books) via Barnes & Noble.


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Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Bombarding Yourself With Other People's Thoughts


You may think your thoughts are your own. After all, you're an intelligent human being, right? Or, you may think that what you watch on TV, what you read, and so on, may sway you, but again, your thoughts are your own, aren't they, because, after all, you're an intelligent human being.

So explain to me what happens when you're on social media, please. You get there, you start reading people's posts (other people's thoughts), and if you're like most of us, you don't personally and truly know a great many of those people, but you have allowed their thoughts into your life via this medium. (And I'm not even talking about 'fake news' here). Think of it like allowing them to touch your brain, your heart, any part of you that you would normally not allow another to touch - unless you truly knew them (or "of" them) well

Perhaps these other people have great thoughts. Enlightening ones. Interesting ones that teach you something. Or perhaps not. But how do you judge? And how do you know, after spending some time on this social media site or another, how much of what you are now thinking is a product of your own reasoned and critical process, as opposed to something you've sucked up from the web?

The answer is, you can't know. At least not until you do some of that reasoned and critical thinking. And generally that means sitting by yourself and well ... thinking. Perhaps doing some research to fill in some gaps, but the thinking should be your own as opposed to being a product of the daily bombardment of others' thoughts.

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"Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin"


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Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

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Tuesday, April 4, 2017

The People You Admire: What It Tells You About You


Give this some thought.

Who are the people that you most admire? Pick some that are mainly your own gender. Here are some areas to look at:
  • close family
  • teachers, mentors
  • friends and colleagues
  • public figures in politics
  • business leaders
  • professionals from any walk of life
  • artists (authors, painters, sculptors, musicians, composers, singers, etc.)
  • actors
  • characters from history
  • characters from literature
  • characters from cinema
OK, you get the picture. Choose two or three that you truly admire for some specific qualities.

Now take a sheet of paper and under the name of each of these persons, write what it is that you admire about them (please: no physical characteristics...just qualities of character or behavior).
I assume you have written about some very wonderful people, even if they are unknown to all but you. The qualities you admire about them, are probably also very wonderful. Please stop reading if you have not already written out the qualities you admire. This is important. Only go on reading once that is done.

You may find that you have chosen several people whom you admire for very similar reasons, even though one of them might be someone you know personally, one a public figure, and one someone from a book you once read.

From the psychological point of view, and in Jungian terms the qualities you admire, that you have written down, say this about you: there are elements of your character that you have not yet recognized, that you don't yet accept as actually forming part of yourself. These are the elements that you admire in others of your own gender. The reason you have to admire them out there is because you have not yet recognized them in you.

Use this information to start paying more attention to any clue, however slight, in you that shows you that you do have these qualities in you in nascent form, and start bringing them to life, bit by bit, more and more every day.

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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram 

Thursday, March 30, 2017

Boundaries & the Unacceptable: Is It Always Possible to Say No?


In these posts and my monthly newsletter articles, I've written a lot about the importance of developing healthy boundaries, and about the fact that implicit in this growth is that this is one of the ways we learn to love ourselves.

So when someone behaves in ways that are unacceptable to you, or speaks to you with words or in tones that are unacceptable to you, it's very important not only to make that known - that their behavior, words, or tone (or all three) - are unacceptable, but that there will be a consequence.

If a four-year-old is practicing picking up his toys before bath time, and his mother is showing him how to do this, it makes sense that after some time of practicing, she then tells him that from now on, picking up the toys will be his job when he gets called to have his bath. Suppose the mother asks if he agrees to do this, and suppose the little child says yes. At this point, it would be very important for the mother to explain that because it is his job, if he doesn't do it, or refuses, or dawdles too much, that there will be a consequence. NOT, I hasten to add, a punishment. You agree to adhere to this way of behaving, and if you don't, then this is what will happen. In the child's case it might be not being allowed to watch Sesame Street that evening, or whatever it is that kids are watching nowadays. Something short. Something that will neither break him, nor the parents, but nevertheless something that is important to him. In our adult lives, the consequence might be a €300 fine for speeding in our new sports car on the expressway.

So in our adult relationships consequences have to also be spelled out with courtesy, kindness, and patience. Without them, boundaries mean nothing. And of course this applies even if you are only coming to the "table" regarding the subject of boundaries after years of having put up with unacceptable behavior. So then you apply some measure of the above, will hopefully get through to the other person, or, if not, you may need to make another kind of decision.

But what happens when you are caught up in the depths of Alice in Wonderland's rabbit hole with your partner (or whoever it is with whom you are having a boundaries issue)? Let's say that there seems to be no clear reality-based foundation upon which you can share your differing points of view. Let's say your partner says the earth is flat and you, of course, know it is not (no, I am not talking about the man in the White House). Or let's say your partner says that yesterday you said it never rains, where it clearly shows in the texted conversation you both had that you said it always rains in the spring. But it's not acknowledged as such, and therefore you:
  • arrive at an impasse
  • engage in a tremendous argument
  • recommend your partner makes an appointment with a psychiatrist
  • break off relations
  • or you pretend all is well, and for the sake of peace things carry on as they were in a flat world where it never rains
Do you see my point? Insisting on maintaining boundaries in situations of this nature may imply impossible options, assuming you have been trying to resolve this for some time. 

I don't pretend to have any answers. All I can say is that I also continue to search.

But remember this: if you are caught up in one of these situations that can be heart-rendingly heart-breaking, remember to work on maintaining your inner peace, remember to hold compassion and loving kindness high in your heart, and above all, remember to love yourself. Remember as well: this may be the path you need to walk in order to allow that lotus that you are (we all are) to emerge further from the mud ...

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Books by Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (English). Available globally in paperback or Kindle e-book versions


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Libros por Gabriella Kortsch (español) ... ahora en todo el mundo en Amazon en versión bolsillo y Kindle



Note: If you are wondering why this blog is now only appearing on alternate days (excluding Sat/Sun), it is because I also post on my other blog on the others days. That other blog is The Tao of Spiritual Partnership, so named for another one of my books. Click here to visit the blog and/or to sign up for the feed. 

My blog posts are also featured on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Pinterest & you can find me on Instagram